If I'm being honest and objective about this, moving back to my home area could be a good thing...for me, our R, for the kids. We would be closer to both families, but my W has said she cannot (and may not be able to) handle the stress of a move.
I know that I cannot help her see this and that it must be a conclusion that she needs to arrive at on her own.
That's the risk here: If I take the job and move, what if she doesn't want to move? Then, I've essentially torpedoed any chance of our R mending itself. Do I set aside what I think is the right thing to do, and support my W with what she thinks is right?
