On February 10, I got the "I love you but" speech from my husband of almost 18 years. He's 41. I'm 37. We have been lovers, best friends, everything to one another until about a month and a half ago, when all of a sudden, he started snapping at me for everything and then dropped the ILYB bomb.
Since then, it's been three weeks of hell. The man I know, the man I love, is gone and there's someone else in his place. A man with cold, hard eyes and a hateful expression. He says that my mistreatment of him throughout our marriage has led us here, and he will never feel love in his heart for me again, though he wants to preserve our friendship and our companionship. He'll go to counseling to preserve our friendship, but nothing more.
I have read Divorce Buster and I read and re-read Divorce Remedy. Pages 54-57 are my standard reading, usually before I start crying at the man I have loved for most of my life and am losing.
