Trying LRT with spouse who now has all kinds of money issues and "needs" money we don't even have to afford his new extra household. How to solve this via text/email, etc. He is the breadwinner. He is a WAS who left me with EVERYTHING to pay/do so he can "clear his head" with a 26 year old OW.
Me: 44 H: 45 Married 22 S 18, S 16 Bomb 8/11, Second Bomb 1/12
Sorry you are on moderation but I have given you lots of things to read on the above thread. Post often and in small bursts and that will help you to get off of moderation.
Thanks. Read them all and DB book. I have seen no mention if money in any of these posts. WHAT do we do. I could be dark but we operate out of 1 checkbook and he wants more and more $ as weeks pass. Thanks! BTW-what is moderation? Should I tack my ? to original lengthy post?
Me: 44 H: 45 Married 22 S 18, S 16 Bomb 8/11, Second Bomb 1/12
MLCer's are notorious for spending. Protect yourself in whatever way you can because you can be held responsible for half of the debt your H runs up.
Have you been to a lawyer yet? Going for a consultation and finding out your rights and responsibilities can relieve some of the stress you're under.
It doesn't mean you have to do anything legal or even share with your H that you went to see a L. Many L's offer free consultations.
If you are truly worried about money and not having enough to support you and your children, most places have ways for you to get child support from your H w/o filing for S or D.
Can you talk to your H about what you need financially to support your children? You can set up a separate bank account for support under just your name. That way he will not be able to touch that money that goes to the kids.
All newbies are under moderation for a time here. It's the moderators way of making sure you're legit. Some of your posts may take a bit before they show up. Posting frequently will get you off of moderation.
Just a little advice about reading those threads that Cadet gave you. Go back and re-read. I get something more from them every time I do.
I see you have read DB. Have you read DR yet? If not, do so. I think it goes more in depth than DB, but both are excellent books.
Please take care and let us know how you're doing. This is a rough road to walk but we're right there beside you.
