Statistics on "recovering the romance"

[Dom R]

Okay, Im cheating in posting here, in that I'm not a newcomer. But I havent been on here for 2 years, so its almost the same
Hi to everyone... (and a special hi to you, Princess, if you have an email alert on my postings

I made a rather bold statement to my estranged wife today, that "millions of people have successfully recovered the romance, in a 'cold' marriage".
She surprised me, by asking me to back that number up with some kind of study.
Ulp!

I feel fairly confident that the actual number is true. Certainly if you count "over the last X number of years".... But I need some way to prove this to her :-/
Does anyone have a good source handy, to point me to?

[~ kd ~]

hahaha busted...

Dredge up the numbers for Ds that were filed but expired... maybe that will be good enough...

Geeze, 25 had some numbers she just posted recently about California between 2002 and 2007 or something... but she's away for a few days for sure...

[sayitaintso]

So you have been DB'ing for 3 years? Do share a quick synopsis of your sitch for those of us who have not been around so long.

[sayitaintso]

So you have been DB'ing for 3 years? Do share a quick synopsis of your sitch for those of us who have not been around so long.

[Grmpy_Mnky]

Yes, please do share. Loke to hear your story. I'm just past eight weeks and ready to throw in the towel.

[Dom R]

Hi Grumpy(and SIAS).
erm... I dont think it's a good idea to share my story. you'd probably get too depressed :-} Although I will share one nice thing; since she walked out in 2006, she has become considerably easier to talk to, and discuss important things with.
Back then she was spouting things such as,
"if I'm not happy, the children can't be happy either". And blaming me for things that were in no way my fault.
Impossible to reason with someone who has that kind of self-absorbed mindset. Keep in mind that when someone gets like that, you can't "debate them out of it". They're not interested in facts or reality any more.

Some things only improve with time, and actions.

Kaffe: no, dont think that will be even close to "good enough", i'm afraid. I think she wants to know that romantic feelings can be reliably recovered, if (... insert facts/studies here...)