Separated But Living Under the Same Roof, Part II

[Grmpy_Mnky]

[quote=JamesG]
I think that now would be a good time to just listen and validate her concerns. And you should be doing that with open ears, while sipping on a nice , big , cool glass of STFU......


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OMG - I am sooo stealing that!!!!!!!

[JamesG]

Thank you, Mach1. This is precisely the reply I needed to hear. I am going to sit with your questions for a few hours before replying in full.

[Grmpy_Mnky]

Hang in there James. I have the same problem.

[NLW]

Hi James,

I feel for you.

Like Bklyn, Purg, & NH, I have a similar reverse-gender sitch to you - my H is so very glad that I have changed things around but attributes this to the fact that we are now separated. He's expressed no desire at all to reconsider.

And reading this thread, i was getting a bit down about our chances.. but then it occurred to me that we're pretty strong/interesting/desirable people. Just read our threads!
And really, our spouses saw this, too, at one stage.

We've just gotta keep being those interesting/attractive/switched-on people - but with the added advantage that we GET IT now! We're not going to drop back into destructive habits; we've got more to offer.

So let's just focus on keeping on with showing this to the world. Might not seem like much at this stage but think about how far you've come.

Best,
NLW.

[2thepoint]

James - where you be at? Hope all is well. Check in and tell us how you are doing.