What could his therapist be suggesting???

[2chiquitos]

Ex has been seeing a therapist since DD 6mos ago. I have seen positive changes in him. He is more himself, not completely but a lot more than 6mos ago. He is working on fixing his relationship with people he has hurt along the way. (our friends).
However he continues to see OW. And he makes it a point to say he only wants us to focus on coparenting our kids. Yesterday was the first day he he sounded hopeful. He said, "IF we continue (separated)....blah blah blah". I don't remember what he said after cuz that's all I heard! It's the first time he says something like this. Really blew me away! But going back to his therapist, what could he be advising him?!?!

[onyourside2]

good afternoon veroprado

i see you were up last night thinking, perhaps?

it's hard to say what your H's IC might be telling him. would you be willing to share a very brief history of how the two of you got here and what each of you would say is the current status of your relationship?

thank-you if you can...

onyourside2

[2chiquitos]

He said the typical, I love u but I'm not in love w you. Lately he's said he's confused. But he continues to talk about the future as us separated. He supports me when I make decisions towards a more separate lifestyle. For example I told him I wanted to rent out our house and get an apt. He said he'll help me! If this will make me feel better, he'll support me! And he had originally suggested we separate the bills. I asked him for 2/3 of his income. He supported me! WTH?!?! I'm not crying wolf but I hate his enthusiasm!!
He said his therapist was the victim in his wife's betrayal. Turns out his wife left the therapist to pursue her relationship w OM and they r still together!
So WTH?!?!?!

[onyourside2]

and to the best of your knowledge, how long has he been seeing the OW and what do you know about the OW?

[2chiquitos]

He's been seeing her for 9mos. I found out about the affair 6mos ago. She young, carefree. Still going to college. A substitute teacher so no job stability. She's divorced. Ex beat her and cheated on her. she continues to have a relationship w ex and my ex.

[onyourside2]

hi veroprado

here's some more questions for you...

what was your H's number one complaint about you when you were together (and how long have you been together/)?

what was your number one complaint about H?

are you the silent, stoic type, the heart on your sleeve type or in between?

if you are the heart on your sleeve type, what emotions do you put out there the most?

and finally, any interactions with H since last post?

oys2