I thought I would start my new thread off by posting the poem "IF" by Rudyard Kipling. The poem was originally written for men, but has been, and can be modified for use by women, children etc. After having read many posts on this board by people who sometimes become discouraged or ambivalent about DBing, in the sense that they are doing all for naught, or being taken advantage of, my perspective is that we do what we do because it is the right thing to do, becauSe we eventually want to be able to look ourselves in the mirror and say we have given our all, and have fought the good fight. We can find peace and solace in this fact, so...
IF
IF YOU CAN KEEP YOUR HEAD WHEN ALL ABOUT YOU ARE LOSING THEIRS AND BLAMING IT ON YOU IF YOU CAN TRUST YOURSELVES, WHEN ALL MEN DOUBT YOU, BUT MAKE ALLOWANCE FOR THEIR DOUBING TOO IF YOU CAN WAIT, AND NOT BE TIRED BY WAITING OR BEING LIED ABOUT, DONT DEAL IN LIES OR BEING HATED, DONT GIVE WAY TO HATING AND YET DONT LOOK TOO GOOD NOR TALK TOO WISE
IF YOU CAN DREAM, AND NOT MAKE DREAMS YOUR MASTER IF YOU CAN THINK, AND NOT MAKE THOUGHTS YOUR AIM IF YOU CAN MEET WITH TRIUMPH AND DISASTER AND TREAT THOSE TWO IMPOSTERS JUST THE SAME IF YOU CAN BEAR TO HEAR THE TRUTH YOUVE SPOKEN TWISTED BY KNAVES TO MAKE A TRAP FOR FOOLS OR WATCH THE THINGS YOU GAVE YOUR LIFE TO BROKEN AND STOOP, AND BUILD THEM UP WITH WORN OUT TOOLS
IF YOU CAN MAKE ONE HEAP OF ALL YOUR EARNINGS AND RISK IT ON ONE TURN OF PITCH AND TOSS AND LOSE, AND START AGAIN AT YOUR BEGINNINGS AND NEVER BREATHE A WORD ABOUT YOUR LOSS IF YOU CAN FORCE YOUR HEART AND NERVE AND SINEW TO SERVE YOUR TURN LONG AFTER THEY ARE GONE AND SO HOLD ON WHEN THERE IS NOTHING IN YOU EXCEPT THE WILL WHICH SAYS TO THEM "HOLD ON"
IF YOU CAN WALK WITH CROWDS AND KEEP YOUR VIRTUE OR WALK WITH KINGS-NOR LOSE THE COMMON TOUCH IF NEITHER FOES NOR LOVING FRIENDS CAN HURT YOU IF ALL MEN COUNT WITH YOU, BUT NONE TOO MUCH IF YOU CAN FILL THE UNFORGIVING MINUTE WITH SIXTY SECONDS WORTH OF DISTANCE RUN YOURS IS THE EARTH, AND EVERYTHING THATS IN IT AND-WHICH IS MORE-YOU WILL BE A MAN MY SON!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
Thanks for this Gunny, spoke right to my need of the moment. Being put through the ringer at the moment, words twisted and thrown at me, 15 year old mistakes tossed out as if they happened today and I was thinking it was time to throw in the towel.....but you reminded me that its not about what she does.... its about me doing what I know is right so not only can I look in the mirror but I can look my kids in the eyes and know that I didn't quit on their family, that I did all that was in my power to do to create a new and improved M with their mother. Thank You!
I hope all is well with you. I have been ssleeping better. I have been sticking with my NO CAFFINE AFTER 2 PM rule, in addition to all my other rules. It sure helps.
I also am getting to be pretty good at meditation. Ramps my overactive brain down!
I think I will print that poem out in a nice font and replace something on my wall with it. I think I have some parchment paper in my stash!
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Thanks for this Gunny, spoke right to my need of the moment. Being put through the ringer at the moment, words twisted and thrown at me, 15 year old mistakes tossed out as if they happened today and I was thinking it was time to throw in the towel.....but you reminded me that its not about what she does.... its about me doing what I know is right so not only can I look in the mirror but I can look my kids in the eyes and know that I didn't quit on their family, that I did all that was in my power to do to create a new and improved M with their mother. Thank You!
Ditto.(Mr. Mr you took the words right out of my mouth.)
Thanks Gunny.
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
Hello all, thank you for the kind comments, hope you all are doing well.
Quick update, w called me at work yesterday to tell me our dogs operation went well and they did not find any cancer, both tumors were benign. Great relief! She has done a great job taking care of him, and I appreciated her letting me know the second she found out.
No r talk, actually, I never talked to her, she left a message and I emailed her back.
Sunny and cold today, beautiful day!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
