cant cope with the lost

[losingthemhurts]

Losing my family has broken me my life is not the same. I still love her and I miss my kids so much. This is the most painful thing I ever had to deal with. Lost of family forced to move out of my home and I don't get to see my kids daily as I use to. I never saw it coming her just leaving after seven years my dreams are shattered. I am so unhappy life is no longer any fun for me. I can no longer live like this staying place to place. I lost everything I love how do you cope with that id rather not live. Next it will be some strange Guy around my kids my eyes and heart can't take any of the things to come. I am a man who loves his family. When does the pain end? I see why men in my situation end their lives cause it hurts soo much.

[antlers]

You can cope with what you lost. You have no choice. Dying is not an option. Would that do your kids any good? Everyone here knows the pain that you describe. There is no way around the pain. Only 'through' it. And it takes time. It can't be rushed. You must take positive actions during this 'time'. That means to take care of yourself first and foremost, in every way. You can't control the actions of others...but you can control your own actions. Take control of those and do something good for you with it. Live well. From here on out. No matter what.

[JustStunned]

You are not alone. I have been there.

Pistol in my lap, letters written, two thoughts and a memory gave me pause to reconsider.

It is an abandonment of the ones who loves us. I will not do to them what she has done to me. I am better than that, better than her, commitment was a core value once, and it will be again.

She predicted I would. I will not give her the satisfaction of being right. I will not give her that power. I will live and live well. I will paint my happiness where she can see it. It will be genuine happiness.
Yes I became angry. Anger is a powerful emotion and can be used to motivate to action.

The memory requires a story, bear with me. It was 1937. Mom was 10 years old. Her father, distraught and depressed killed himself with a pistol. The family he left behind nearly starved that winter. They lost possession of the farm the following summer. The memory is of how mom speaks of those times and the anger she has for her father. She speaks lovingly of her father most of the time until she comes to the consequences of that act and the hurt his abandonment caused. I decided not to leave a legacy like that for my children.

There are other people in your life than W and your children. There are other people your life touches. There is truth to the premise of the movie “It’s a wonderful life”. Don’t take what seems to be the easy path. Do the work. Take the power over your happiness away from her. You control your happiness, assert your control. There will be setbacks, accept them, adjust, and move forward again get on with living, and live well.