WAW roomate is telling me she is moving out..

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I had the real estate agent come to the house yesterday. The house was accessed and realtor told me how much the house would go for. I asked a lot of questions. I have never sold a house before. I relayed the info to my w. We chatted about the SA. Still have not got. I kind of need it for the kids Passports. I mentioned this to her. I told my w that I still don't want to sell. I will if she still insists on it. My w has not said she wants to. My w seemed to go quiet. My w was asking me if I am ok with selling. I will do it if you want to. My w mentioned her friend would do the staging. But again I still got no concrete answer if we should hire this agent. I was tired so I went to bed.

This morning I have called my w should we hire the agent. My w said she needs to think about it. This is what she was mad about me on the weekend. I am giving her the exit she has asked for. sell the house. I am ready to sell the house. For me selling the house will not change how I feel.

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JH52 ...My kids are hurting. My s and and My D told me yesterday that they do not like it when mom is home. I did not prompt it. I can not mind read. Believing my w is under OM control is a little bit presumptuous. My w has a mind of her own. It is her choice to go or not to go. We still need to be parents to our kids. I am doing what needs to be done. I am trying DR tactics. In the last year I have been more reactive to what my w did. In the last month I have been more proactive. I value every minute I am with my kids. I run every other night with my s. My s and I have joined a 5k race for June 10th. That is my anniversary. This will give me a different outlook on this day. MILs are the best. I will say they are more my parents then my own parents.

I do appreciate what you have written. Especially Mr Bond. When ever you want to hit me with a 2x4 please do.

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Well had the realtor photographer in yesterday. The week prior to that I have been condensing and boxing as may things to get ready for the sale day. I have been keep active running ever other day. I feel good. Relaxed and at peace. I have let go of the rope. I am ready for my next chapter. My w I have noticed is miserable. She is crying a lot this weekend. My w seems to not want to sell now. I never wanted to sell. I have just come to the relational that I can't live with my w right now. I need mutual respect. My w right now is fighting with the realtor. My w wants to list it for more. I am staying out of that fight. I told my w that if she wants to list it for more she can. I don't really care i just want out. This does not mean I am done with my w. I can tell she still cares. I am tired of holding up the mirror for her to look in to. I need to live my life and if she wants to come . She can join me but we need to discuss things.

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Sold my house on Sunday June 10. My anniversary. We got 20 over the asking price. My w seemed exited when the real estate agent was there. But once she left my w broke down and asked me to hug her. We stood in the kitchen just hugging it felt like an eternity. I really missed my w. My w was full on cry mode. I tried to lighten the mood. I told my w about my s and I running 5k race. My w seemed to enjoy me changing the subject. Still looking for a place. My w seems really concerned about me. and where I will land. guess that is good.

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It has been a while. I have sold my house. Bought a Condo day after my B-day. June 22 ...My w found out July 6th. I did not tell her. We weren't talking so I didn't feel I need to share this with her. I was friendly with her just not wanting to fight about anything.My w has since told my kids they will fall to their deaths. I have since confronted my w and suggested that she re frame from scaring the kids. I told her that I don't scare the kids about the pool in the backyard of IL house. My w is not relenting she thinks I should live closer to her. I chose a place that is far enough a way that I will not casually bump in to her. I told her that I am too hurt and I want to move on.

My w is still constantly nit picking everything. My wants to My w's niece asked me to get concert tickets for sublime. I did. My w retaliated and cancelled my credit card. I laughed about it and ordered a new one.

My w and I have wrote out a parenting plan. but already my w has tried to change it. As she feels that My d needs her more. Cause my d is 4. My s is angry at him mom. I have to constantly talk to him that I will always be there and so will his mom. My s doesn't think she will. My d tells me that it is the texting that does it. My d gets real mad at anyone texting in front of her.

Freedom day is Aug 15. I really do look forward to that day. I love my w. I hate what she is doing to my family. I can not be with her the way she is right now. My s understands more than my d. My s has really become attached to me. I try to listen to him and help him as much as I can.