...and, as I'm sure you've already guessed, by spending my time posting the above I am able to avoid cleaning my apartment for a few moments longer. Procrastination rocks!
Well, hate to say it but she would probably be okay with the messy apartment. Women hold very low standards for men's housekeeping abilities. That and we always love a good fixer upper! If you don't mind bringing that possible tendency out in her.
So it's all good! At the Meet today I mentioned to STBX that I needed her to drop the kids at my apartment next Sunday and she replied "Would you tell this woman to give you better times to meet, this is becoming very inconvenient" huh? A few minutes later she says "so I guess this means the girls will be alone on Sunday,they are spending a lot of time alone lately" WTF is that all about? OMG, the girls are 18 and 14 years old, i think they're able to handle a few hours without their Dad at home on a Sunday. It's all good when Whatis is alone but let him find a lady and STBX gets all bitchy! It's a brand new world suddenly.
Beats me! I wasn't sure whether she was just being a bitch, which she's quite capable of, or whether it was some kind of jealousy thing. Actually who cares! I told her earlier I'd been off work for four days with this cold and her response was "it must be nice to be able to take that much time off work" in other words, she's so overworked. I compare her responses to SDA Lady and it's like night and day. Tonight at 10:00pm I texted SDA Lady to tell her I was still in Pickering and she responded "That's OK, take ur time and enjoy your evening with your family" Uh, night and day. _________________________
I figured this was going to happen. It is the way some women are. As Kat points out - she didn't want you but she didn't want anyone else to have you either. Ex seems very controlling. I had no doubt that she was. She wanted it all - kids, lover and a man around to help. Hmmm - she sees new woman as a threat to her perfect little world.
Now, you can be sure that new woman WILL find ex a threat. She is not in a position to show that yet. But she will. Anyone would feel somewhat threatened by the R that you have with your ex. So much family stuff and everyone is so cool with it. All was good in that little world as long as you did Ex's bidding and you did not see what might happen.
OK - so, that said - your ex has no right to tell you what to do. She has no say in when you see your new woman. But she'd like to control it - that's for sure! Unless you were not taking care of your girls. Not disciplining them. Helping out with homework or making sure they're being fed, nurtured - that would be a reason for her to be involved. But you would never let that happen. Spending one day a week with a new woman is your right and absolutely none of her business! Do not let her have any say in your personal life AT ALL!!!!
And Wii - stop telling wife any details of your love life (I think I warned you about the perils of that one) and also - if you're spending time with your ex and "being a family" - don't share it all with new woman. You NEED to keep some of your life secretive. Hold your cards closer to your chest. You are WAY too trusting of people and sometimes that bites you in the butt. And this is one of those times. Remember we told you about "mystique". Keep remembering that - hold some things back!
OK - all that said - have fun today with new woman. Enjoy your dinner and movie!
It's a brand new world for me, isn't it! STBX didn't know about MM until the party was over. So, she had no time to get all controlling. SDA Lady knew about the gymnastics meet and we were going but, to my credit, I did not mention STBX once in our conversation later in the evening. I won't complain to SDA Lady or mention STBX's bitchiness, that's my issue to deal with not hers. I did tell her about my D14's performance. Yes, it's time to be very careful. We're going to see Big Miracle this afternoon and have dinner at the Filipino restaurant, we're going Persian next week!
Btw, at the Meet D14 had a very disappointing experience. Scores are out of 12 and in Gymnastics you start at 12 and they deduct points throughout the routine. D was on the beam and apparently had 11.7, which is excellent, with only her dismount to do. She did her front tuck off the beam (a summersault) landed on her feet...lost her balance and fell on her butt, which has never happened before...ever. Any fall results in a 1 point deduction which basically kills you competitively. She ended up with 10.7. Without that one little little blip she would have finished third overall. On the bright side, she finished 2nd in Vault. I told SDA Lady about the fall and she said "at least she had you there for support, it's disappointing for her but she had her family around her" Filipinos are very, very family oriented...family is everything which is why divorce was so difficult for her. I think it's also the reason she is supportive of my "family time"...but that can change, as Barb mentioned! We'll see. D14 said in the parking lot "OK, let's put this behind us". She has one more Meet this year and they take the scores from the best two out of three Meets, so she still has a chance to go to Ottawa for the championships. It ain't over till it's over lol!
I can totally relate. It is the same in Baton Twirling (my sport) and skating although in Baton there are dropped batons and also falling to contend with. And an average spectator assumes the twirler who drops the baton the most is not accomplished. Not so! How would they ever improve their skill without going for the bigger and the better? And the only way to accomplish that is by TRYING the harder tricks. It's tough!
Anyway - SDA lady should always encourage your time with your girls -to do otherwise would make her not a good match for you. But I could understand her not wanting to hear about you spending time with your ex regardless of how your R with ex stands. You are on thin ice here.
But whatever - you've done nothing wrong - just hold your cards closer to your chest. You are far too willing to "tell all".
Well, holding hands at the movies is still the best! Haven't done that for at least eight years. Another wonderful night with a lovely lady. And now, to watch the last quarter of the Super Bowl as the Giants come back to win!
