12 hour shift.. fix-it attitude.. you and i share similar traits i was speaking to my counselor this week about how i recognize that i seem to come in and try to "save the day" with H. ie. when kids are acting up.. etc. need to step back and let him take charge and make decisions.
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11
Can't remember if I put this in another post but my IC said to me, "the things that make you so good in your job, make you difficult in relationships."
I am finding that it's nice to let go of some of those things I "had" to do.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
that last post of your reminds me of rick1963's post i just replied to. A lot of us are like that -- the work v home personality....yep, it gets us in trouble. I was told by W that one of the reasons she is leaving is that I am too into my work.... Well my job is my fun, it's something that i would do regardless of whether I got paid. I just think i'm lucky in that sense.
I'll catch up on your latest updates.
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed
Labug, you continue to be an inspiration. I'm at a crossroads of how I can keep Dbing while in so much pain.... reading your posts helps to keep me on track, thanks you.
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
Can'[color:#6666CC]t remember if I put this in another post but my IC said to me, "the things that make you so good in your job, make you difficult in relationships."
I am finding that it's nice to let go of some of those things I "had" to do. [/color]
i concur. i never wanted to become my H's mother but that is what happened. definitely stepping back from that role!!
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11
One of my friends thinks I should just say "Do I look like your mother?" everytime my husband says something that is the kind of question one would ask their mother.
Easier said than done. So hard to define new roles in old relationships.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
i was speaking to my counselor this week about how i recognize that i seem to come in and try to "save the day" with H. ie. when kids are acting up.. etc. need to step back and let him take charge and make decisions.