Not sure if I'm still on moderation. If so,this question might not be relevant but here I go. My son's parent teacher conference is tomorrow afternoon. Should I text my H to remind him? I told him about it last week and he said he would be there. In the past I would have definitely done so but as part of my 180 I have stopped reminding him of things, birthdays, appointments, etc. He missed the last meeting I had as my son's school dealing with his ADHD diagnosis. I had let him know when the appointment was about a week prior but did not do any kind of follow up. When I phoned later that day to discuss the meeting he was upset and said "I know now you won't be reminding me of these things" I want to keep him in the loop since it has to do with our son, but I also don't want to repeat my past pattern of being his personal assistant. One of his complaints was he hasn't "done things for himself" so I don't want to appear to be trying to control that. Thanks for your advice.
M:45/H43 T:21/M19 D:18 S:11 Bomb:8/10- I'm just not "happy" H Moves in with mom: 8/10 H Files: 3/11 Now lives with? OW/GF no clue Nothing finalized...
Don't remind him. You told him, I'll bet he could have put the date in his phone with a reminder. If he wants to be in the loop, he'll figure out a way.
Does he miss work appts or things he wants to do? You are right not to be his personal assistant.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
