Husband Left...Part 3

[Hopeful321]

Finished moving today. And H did help. It was great spending the most of the day with him even though we were busy. He was about the same as yesterday. Flirting and could not keep his hands off of me. After we finished moving, H, our D and myself went to lunch. He did make the comment about how he wanted to get a house instead living in his apartment. That hurt me, because I would love for him to move in with me.

Later tonight he wants me to come over so we could ML. A big part of me wants to really bad because I figure if I don't give it to him then he will go else where for it and I don't want that to happen. Then a small part doesn't want too because I don't want him to think he has his cake and eating too.

[Accuray]

Don't do it! Ask him if there is something else you could do together.

[CO1978]

Its so easy for us to say don't do it. But I know if my W asked me the same question, I'd probably jump at the chance and not look back. You have to think really hard to yourself, you made a promise not to do anything with him until OW was gone. Could you live with your decision? You are making great progress, and he is going to keep trying, the more you push away his advances for sex, the more he will try, maybe that will wake him up. I think giving in will set you back to zero on all your hard work.

[~¤DG¤~]

I wouldn't do it either, I don't want you to get false hope.
However, I totally understand why you would.

[Coyote]

Shoot for the middle. Let him know that, 'You are very attractive H. You sure are something! We have some water under the bridge though, can we take a look at this?'

[Coyote]

**Correction**
'...We have some water under the bridge though, can we take a look at a bit of this first? It's important if we're going to enjoy being naughty...'

[Hopeful321]

More about last night...

I did go over H's apartment last night. Played with our D and put her to bed. After she was asleep, H wanted to fool around. The entire time I had rehearsed what I was going to say but that all went all the window when he started to kiss me. So, we did ML last night. Then I wanted to kick myself because I did not have the will power to do what I wanted.

Last night he went to Walmart while I stayed at his apartment and I found a list on his counter and it said:

Divorce 2k
Computer 500

So I guess he still thinking about divorce. I believe he has convinced himself the only way we can truly start over, is if we get a divorce.

[Accuray]

Don't beat yourself up hopeful, that physical and emotional connection is *sooo* tempting when we're hurting.

Accuray

[Hopeful321]

Did I do more harm than good?

[CO1978]

Like Accuray said, don't beat yourself up, it is so easy for us to say don't do it, but when faced with the situation I really doubt many of us could resist. Again he probably left that note in plain sight so you could see it, right now it seems he is only using you. If you did more harm than good, only time can tell.