I'm in the Guard/Reserves-currently deployed to Afghanistan. My wife of 17 years, whom I love & adore, has just announced that she wants a divorce. Our marriage was beautiful until the last few years. I supported her through post-grad school & business ventures. Finance issues & frequent seperations have caused a strain...She discovered in individual counceling that she has been running from our marrital problems by traveling often for work- I said things that I regret...thinking about it, I probably suffer from depression/anxiety issues.I have an appt scheduled for my return to the states to deal with my own insecurities. She felt unappreciated and I'm sure that I hurt her self-esteem. Unfortunaely-I took out my own frustrations on the ones that I love. I regret all of it. I'll be home soon. I suggested couples counceling when I return, but she said that its too late (she had suggested it for 2 yrs- but I was in denial, and refused to go). I believe her when she tells me that there isn't another man. She said that she loves me- but can't return to the way we were. She admitted that she has been crying alot. I just started to learn the 180 rules...it is so hard. I love and adore my wife and children. I want to save our family. I need help- Is it possible to save my marriage? I hope that I'm not too late. I'll do anything to save my family-- Looking for HOPE & advice please! Thanks so much for this site..Soory if I'm rambling- my head is spinning
(F.K.A. Broken422)
US 40's M 17,T 19 2 BOYS 13,16 Divorced 4/2012 11/2011 W SAID SHE WANTS D
"When it is dark enough,you can see the stars"- Ralph Waldo Emerson
First thank you for your service. I am sorry you find yourself here but it is where you belong. There is always even when it does not to be any. Read the DR books and if you can afford it get a DB coach. Stop Persuing following and begging W to reconsider. She wants space others here will give better advice. Post often so. We get a better idea of you sitch. Hang in there
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
