If you were to close your eyes and "see" what is going on in your life, what would be happening. Don't see obstacles, just what you want. Write it down. Look through magazines and find pictures that represent your vision. Cut them out. Walk around where you are and take pictures of places, things, people that you like and/or inspire you.
Put these motivators around you. Keep envisioning you in these pictures. Think to yourself that it is possible. This is the beginning, right now.
I'll be back after you have done step one.
Hugs,kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well, there is the problem kat. I can't see anything at all. I've been trying visualization exercises for a couple of years now and still can't envision anything. My C worked with me on this and it frustrated both of us to no end.
I close my eyes, try to envision what I want to be happening in my life in the next week, not even 6 months or more from now, and I can't see anything. It's black. I then push it out to 6 months and...still black. She had me try to envision 5 years from now thinking it would help me to go out far and work backward....nope.....nothing.
What the heck does that say? Do I just have no vision or do I have no hope? What is blocking me.
There was a time that I had dreams but those days have been gone since I was a teenager. Ever since then I haven't been able to make any kind of plan or work toward a goal. Goal setting has been a total bust.
Is it laziness? Is it depression? No idea and my C retired before we were able to work through it. Now I can't afford a C so I'm stuck.
So.....
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Then do the magazine and phot part. There is a way to get your dreams jump started. You need to find something to move towards or you will get stuck. No execuses.
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
1)Sitting in Italy in a cozy village in the mountains with a glass of wine and a good book and holding the hand of the love of my life.
2)Walking through the moonlit squares of Savannah with not a care in the world other than enjoying the moment.
3)Relaxing on the deck of a ship traveling around the world seeing all the beautiful, awe-inspiring places I've only read about.
Yep, crazy amazing things I would love to do but not an actual direction or goal in the bunch. I have to figure out how to survive better than I am right now. Those things above are just pipe dreams.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
The state just foisted a foster daughter on you, age 17. They stuck her with you because her school testing and interest inventories closely matched yours that you had done when you were in high school. You feel bad for her though because she seems so lost, she's not even sure whether to apply to college despite decent grades and good test scores. She says she'll just screw it up and there's nothing she wants to major in. She doesn't want to do Voc-Ed because it won't lead anywhere. She says McDonalds won't even hire her because they don't want people who are just going to graduate in the Spring.
What do you want for her? What would be good for her?
No idea. Other than being encouraging and telling her not to sell herself short I've got nothing.
Heavens OT, that girl sounds identical to me in so many ways it's frightening. I did go the Voc-Ed route because I couldn't see myself ever actually getting through college (although I did take courses, I never finished).
Oh great, I'm sitting here crying now just thinking about all the places I went wrong and it's far too late to do anything about them.
Oh man....I want to go home now.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
