I just started reading the divorce remedy book. According to the book I have done everything that I could do wrong . We almost got divorced last year. Since then nothing has improved. We are living under the same roof. But we barely talk to each other. Everytime we have a fight he goes bac to his girlfriend. and this gets me more mad. We have a 5 yr old and the only reason we are together is because of her. I don't want her to grow up in a broken home. But I don't even like him and I don't want to live in a loveless marriage. I am really confused if I should put my faith in him and this marriage again. It's really hard to trust him after being lied to and cheated over and over again.
If you are not able to forgive him it will never work, also, if he keeps being a scum bag and going back to that woman it will not work either. Accept your errors, ask him to forgive you and ASAP do marriage counseling. If nothing has improved then you are not applying what you've red on the DR book. It requires lots of 180's , requires changing those things which are hard to change.
No one should be in a loveless M, you should be able to come home happy, to see him come and hug him and tell him how glad you are to see him. What do you fight about? seems like there is a huge underlying problem (not talking) and the fights are just symptoms... there is something bigger festering between you two (not the gf, that is a symptom too, she is irrelevant and means nothing, just a escape for him)
Be that woman he fell in love with, remember who you were when he fell in love with you. Take care of yourself, GAL. Some back history would help, but again, you two need to do counseling right away... don't let things get any worse, you owe it to yourself and your little one.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
