jethro, sounds like things are moving ahead really well. i hop eyou feel better soon. as far as the sex thing...go with it. she knows sex is important to you. as far as distractions, it's not bad lisa
You sound much better. I think you should go w/the sex thing. Dont worry about the whys. She is trying to speak your love language - appreciate it for what it is.
I may not be posting on my own thread much but I am still checking on you. Take care. Abby
Hey everyone...thanks for coming by. I really appreciate it. Things seem to get better day after day. I'm really starting to see a positive change in my W. She's far more attentive to my needs, and is far more focused on spending quality time with my children. All of us have suffered over the last year and a half, but she's doing her best to get things back on track, which is something she verbally told me this morning.
So, yesterday I get an e-mail from her that said: "I just need you to know that i've been feeling a huge shift in our relationship as of late, and my happiness w/ not only US but with myself has been drastically improving. I don't know if it's that spring has sprung or WHAT...probably a combination of stuff....but I'm in a much better place. Truly. Hopefully you feel it,too. I love you."
Then last night (my W was over at her friend's), I went upstairs to find a little card on my pillow. I don't remember exactly what it said, but something about how I'm a kind, forgiving person, that she's looking forward to rebuilding our life together, and that she'd be crazy to not be with me.
Can't much improve on that, huh? So, I got my own letter, SadButHopeful...
So, I've just been plugging along... I haven't been on the BB much because work has been incredibly demanding lately. I want to catch up with my friends, but unfortunately, have little time.
Quote: I nominate Jethro to the title of a wise ole veteran DBer...
Geez...I don't feel that I deserve this title. So many more have been through more than I and have come out ahead. Really, although incredibly painful for me, I feel as though my sitch is relatively "light" compared with many others. Go figure...
So, my W finished Love Languages yesterday morning and called to see if she could pass it on to her parents. Naturally, I gave her the affirmative. Funny thing, a few days ago she said that people getting M should read this book, as it could really help. I told her that many of us have said the exact same thing on the BB (as well as DR).
Last night I very briefly mentioned OM, and she said, "I don't even like to think about that anymore." My response was that although she wants to put it behind her, I, unfortunately still think about it every day. She simply said, "I know." But, hey, at least she DOESN'T want to think about it anymore...
So, all continues as it continues. My W is doing things that she hasn't done in some time--for herself and her family. It's incredibly refreshing and I'm increasingly more encouraged. Her progress is interesting, and I'm not sure the rest of you guys experience things the same way...but instead of her progress being gradual (like a line graph rising ever so steadily), it's more like steps (big rise, then a plateau, then a big rise again). The night before last, for whatever reason, was another step. Hmmm...
That is so awesome man. I dont think I can give you any advice right now, your on the final leg of the marathon. From where I am setting, it looks like you have a very large lead (is that spelled right? It looks funny).
Keep it up Jethro, Im cheerin' for ya!
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
lisa 
