ok well first let me say that i have been on here b4 and couldnt sign on with my old account!! Well i guess my last post was about the W and I sepearated and got back together for the second time!! the story isnt much dif then anyone elses i was an ass for a long time made a great change for what was then for me and my girls and the W liked it and wanted in!! we worked on it for awhile then life happened and got in the way and we had another girl. about a year and a half went by and she dropped the bomb again she left again to!! we were seperated for about 6 months i was seeing someone and she got pregant and the W didnt care she said I love u and want to make it work!! the last time she stopped paying the mortgage and i almost lost the house for me and our girls!! the bank was woking with me bc i am a stay at home dad and didnt have any income! this was mostly her choice bc it made more sense money wise. Well like i was saying the W wanted us again i was scared to go back again in fear of this happeneing again. i told the girl i was seeing i was gonna work it out with my wife and she shortly had a miscarrage after that i think she had it abborted and didnt tell me!! so the bank was working with me and i had the house all lined up to put in my name and she said she didnt want to live there to much bad memerois wanted to start freash i told the bank we were short selling it and didnt want it anymore. we found a nice house to rent great nieghborhood and great people in it our girls had instant friends next door same age as them. weve been here sense july of 2010 things were up and down at time and i changed stop yelling and being an ass when it mattered most. we both never tried at the same time!! fast forward to about 3 months ago and we talked to the landlord and they told us we could sign a long term lease and buy this house if we wanted it!! she was super excited to stay here forever if we wanted like i said great place to live and kids love it and schools are just down the road!! i still yelled and we faught in front of the kids more then we both wanted. we talked 2.5 months ago and i told her i was tired of hurting her and the kids and we agreed to do better and do it now!! so ive been doing my share at home cleaning, laundry u know the stuff a stay at home parent should do!! i even talked to her and listened more about her day ive tried she pulled away slowly but surely. about a month ago she stopped talking to me all togehter and i asked her what was up and she said she was sick of fighting i told her i agree but we havent her response was thats bc i dont talk to u. if we talk we fight is her thing so not true either she just got that stuck in her head. i just continued to talk and be there when she wanted to talk but didnt feel any love from her physically or mentally!! i didnt let it go and asked almost every day until she finally said shes leaving!! wow again my life just flipped again!! like i said ive said some things i regret but im not alone in it i just go straight to yelling. ive accused her of having an affair and of course she denies it!!shes not the type to do it but u never no i guess! she told me she has seen my change and likes it its just she doesnt believe its forreal she thinks it will last long enough till we get better!! that has been a problem in the past on numerious ocasions. im really trying and have been for months it just seems to get worse. she left last monday and i took the first week with the girls and she had them this weekend. ive stayed at home a few nights bc i dont have a place to go nor do i want to leave my family this is my house to and i have been with my girls for almost 3 years and have taken good care of them!! today is the day her dad died and i took the girls to his grave and brought him flowers and let off ballons something we have done in the past i got her flowers to. she doesnt seem to care at all that shes leaving again!! ive tried leaving and giving her her space but i miss my kids!! im gonna tell her tomorrow bc today she doesnt need to hear it but im gonna tell her if this is it then i will take the next 6to 7 months we have left on this lease together and b with my family if shes here great if not i dont care these girls are my life!! she is choosing to flip our lives again and maybe having to move the kids then im gonna enjoy whats left and deal with it when it gets time and during this time try and move on if this continues. what do u guys think? sorry im all over the place and the bad grammer and spelling im not the best at writing.
Your whole post centered around blaming your W for alot of what's going on. You say you yell and argue and JUST started doing things around the house. Yet you complain about her leaving the M?
If you haven't changed after all that, why would she want to stay? Really? Why? She can't take your word for it, because you've even said so yourself that you haven't. Don't condemn or threaten her when you're the problem. It's so obvious.
What kind of help have you been getting professionally? Maybe you need to go in to therapy. Seriously.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
You've created a mess and are now dealing with that mess.
Your W keeps on leaving you for some reason....why?
And the A doesn't help your cause, I mean in 6 months you got some POSOW pregnant.
She kind of has the right to leave and frankly I don't blame her.
Mr.B is right though
The focus needs to be on you not your W
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