Had to risk losing our relationship, and that was HARD. I was prepared to lose. But I had to take the chance. He seemed surprised that I deduced that we were just friends. He said, " you know I love you".
Ahhh, no I didn't. Well, he thought he told me.
That is a nice cover up, eh? I think I see though it.
He was afraid to give up control of the relationship: lose our balance, set me off expecting more, like living together. This he verbalized.
Really Big Guy, I only wanted I love you.
He seemed relieved. We did agree to see each other more often. That I do like.
Now I have to get used to my new reality.
Just wanted to add a little insight into this side of the tunnel.
Hope this finds you all well
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Sounds like the dating is progressing, as are the communications. Maybe he is also afraid that the more he exposes himself emotionally, the more he might hear about or have to explain the past. Don't imagine he wants to revisit the tunnel days if he doesn't have to. No surprise, who would?
No advise. Just congrats and best hopes for continued growth in the R.
Is what you are doing and having with him enough, for now?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
