Well my friends, my journey is over with the ex. I have just come from court and the judge signed the paper. My journey has been long and I have learned alot from this board and my C. I will be moving over to the Suriving the Big D forum, but I will stay caught up with everyone. I have grown and learned so much about my self during this whole ordeal. MWD's advice is spot on only if the WAS would open there eyes and see the ne version of there spouse and hard they have worked to be a better person. I will continue on this path because it feels right and maybe just maybe I will get another chance at loving someone...
Sorry to read this, OLW, but your life is now completely your own. Look forward, don't look back or slowly choke the life out of yourself with "what if's" and "coulda / woulda / shoulda."
The old you is dead. Long live the new you.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
OLW, I agree. It is that perceived stubbornness of the WAS (or confusion of the MLCer) and the blinders they wear...
Of course, that doesn't mean they MUST see the LBS changes and want that back... it just means that very often, they will not open up to the option of R... because their own fears are too great or they deflect their fears by "pretending" their chasing their dreams...
Anyhow, like AC and a couple others around here at this transition... the future can not be predicted... just create a future you can be proud of and be a freakin' awesome dad to those D's of yours...
