Well tonight worst fear was confirmed. Get your 2X4s ready:
Ok so I snooped. We have been in limbo for so long sing wife dropped bomb I had to look at her laptop. Her webpage was filled with messages between her and OM with I love you always and forever. I was looking for a sign but not this one.
Left the house lovingly even though I wanted to confront here, but where would that get me?
What next?
M 38 W 50 S 9, D 6 T 12 M 10 W's 1st EA 4/2007 stopped after confront W's 2nd EA 6/2010 Separated 7/2010 I bomb dropped 7/2010 MC 2/2011 - 3/2011 W bomb dropped 4/2011 Nothing filed or done
Do you have another thread somewhere so I can try to assist you?
It helps if you post on one "thread" so we can follow along and stay caught up.
Guess I'll go look....hang in there.
Don't confront til you have a plan and you don't sound as if you have one.
have you read the div busting books?? It's key to read it so you understand what is happening and what the approach HERE is to solving marital crises.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Thanks 25. This is my only thread. I have read DR and considered writing a last resort letter but maybe too late.
I don't have a plan but praying to God to help me. There is so much I have learned that is my fixing. This hurts!!
As far as I know she doesn't know I snooped because of my behavior didn't change when I left. Always knew/felt something was continuing was going on.
Went grey two months ago and let her contact me. But always left things open to R this M.
M 38 W 50 S 9, D 6 T 12 M 10 W's 1st EA 4/2007 stopped after confront W's 2nd EA 6/2010 Separated 7/2010 I bomb dropped 7/2010 MC 2/2011 - 3/2011 W bomb dropped 4/2011 Nothing filed or done
M 38 W 50 S 9, D 6 T 12 M 10 W's 1st EA 4/2007 stopped after confront W's 2nd EA 6/2010 Separated 7/2010 I bomb dropped 7/2010 MC 2/2011 - 3/2011 W bomb dropped 4/2011 Nothing filed or done
It's tough, MVP... My W has told me from pretty much day one that she didn't want to be M, but didn't want D, but wouldn't tell me to leave, but wouldn't ask me to stay...
She was and still maintains, she's happy doing nothing... and enjoying her social time with OM(s)...
It's ridiculous, I don't know what I'm waiting for, except that maybe she'll change her mind... anyhow, that's where many of us find ourselves...
So the question is, as 25 said... do you have a plan? Is it time for LRT? Are you ready for that, or do you just want to keep waiting, or confront as 007 said above... confront worked for you, before...
If nothing else, as they say... you can stand... just make sure it's not "still"...
