I think mine cost me around $1500. I was not the one who wanted the divorce but I was the one who paid 100% for it. Like you, I did not think I wanted a divorce. And I have to admit it felt weird, going on a dating site as "separated". What? after 3+ years? My L told me I did not need a divorce. But the truth is - I did. I did for ME!
It was the best $1500 I ever spent. I know it is "just a piece of paper". But truly - it is far more than that. And once I got that piece of paper - I moved forward faster and further than I ever thought.
On the day my divorce was final (the day after my mother died), I toasted my ex and our marriage with the kids at dinner. I told them I was sorry we were divorced - that I had always wanted much more than that for them. But that I had done everything I could to save our family - but it was not meant to be. We were a new, smaller family but - the important thing was - if I had never married their dad - I would never have had them. And for that - I was toasting.
Get the divorce. Drop the ties to her. Let the girls do their thing with her and different, new traditions with you.
And forget the other one. No point in grieving longer than the R lasted.
And forget the other one. No point in grieving longer than the R lasted.
Barb
Don't worry Barb, I'm now hot to trot on this new Filipino lawyer who comes to Toronto once a year. She smokes too! Hey, I wonder if she does divorces? What a coup that would be!
I spent about $6000 in lawyers fees for my divorce, and I wasn't the one who wanted it, I just had to fight the stupidity. My X alleges that he spent about $20,000. I have no idea what he spent that much on!!! And the pisser is that we ended up with a property settlement agreement that was very close to the one I initially proposed that we could have had for $750!!! Sometimes I want to kick him for wasting all that money that could have gone to our kids!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Mine cost me $2000 flat and that was for a D I didn't want but felt the need to push through after xh kept shoving ow in my face and had withdrawn his petition for D because he was broke. It was self-preservation only.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
you want to go out with a bunch of hot Filippinas, come hang out with me!
They always say "once you go Asian, you never go Caucasian"
Thanks Gabbysmom, I'll keep that in mind but right now I'm pretty intent on nailing that Filipina lawyer lady on that one time a year she's in town. I'm a one woman man, you know. LOL
I dropped in to a bookstore tonight on my way home. I walked to the back of the store turned quickly down the aisle I wanted and five feet in front of me is...Coffee Buddy. She was looking intently at a book so I was able to high tail it out of the aisle, out of the store, into my car (locked all the doors) and drive like hell. I didn't want to take part in any silly stilted conversation with her, been there, done that...didn't like it. Besides, I didn't have her small decaf with 1 1/2 sugars and 2 creams. I felt so naked! LOL And tonight, it's football night. I'll be watching my 3-11 team get the crap kicked out of them again. It's nice to know some things always stay the same, it's comforting somehow!
