How do you piece something back that is so broken?

[Lupita]

I need a sounding board from those of you who have gone through a long period of trying to re-build your marriages.

As a little bit of background, 3 years ago DH asked for a divorce. His reason, he was not in love with me anymore and I deserved better. I found he had an OLA, which devastated me. I asked, pleaded, begged and then used Michelle's methods to be able to fuction and continue to take care of my children and my job. Years went by and he never left or filed for divorce. There were the years where there was nothing but hostility, then indiference and last a glimpse of hope.

At some point in the course of all this, I gave up on our marriage and stayed for the children. This year, I asked him for a divorce. I no longer wanted to be in a loveless marriage. He said he doesn't want to divorce anymore and that he wants to rebuild our marriage.

I just don't feel I want to do that anymore. I just want to get out!

Is this just another step of the healing process or are we doomed?

I look forward to hearing about your experiences.

Thanks,

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Lupita,

I personally think and feel that the best way to piece is when the LBS (you) is the one that doesn't feel they want to be married.

I think and feel that it is a part of the healing process.

In my case, I told her that the majority of the burden of proof was on her now. Now she wanted to be married, prove it.

Just keep your heart open to him, but just a little, not so much that you get stupid.

[MynameisMZ]

I agree with J3B. Do it! The majority of proof is on him now.