Wife having emo affair from result of just starting business school and having freedom/escape. We are now technically "Separated but living together" (her therapist's idea). I have done a huge 180. Quit drinking, started going to church on my own, learning to play a new instrument. Going out with friends. I apologized to her, her parents and my parents for a lot of crappy things I have done.
Confidence is coming back and it shows.
Yesterday she was civil to me for the first time in months - a good sign. Talked a lot. She has convinced herself that she cannot fall back in love with me and does not even remember what it was like when we were in love. She says she doesn't want the kids to be in a home where the parents don't love each other. She is re-editing all of the good times now. She is clearly trying to convince herself to stay "out of love" with me so she can pursue her affair and make herself happy - she's convinced this is best for everyone and herself.
What to do at this stage. The affair hasn't gotten physical. But the way she's talking, I think it's only a matter of time before it does and then I have a much bigger problem. What can I do at this stage to plant seeds? Should I show her the book and suggest that she read it? Or is that a 'no no' at this point?
