Well this weekend was something else. Saturday our house keeper came and did her thing. I guess that while cleaning she broke my h IPOD speaker. I didn't know that until I was out with a friend for dinner. He texted me and of course was really pissed off. Told me that he didn't want to pay someone to come to the house and break things. I texted him back that I would talk about it when I go home. Big mistakes, first he tells me that he never wanted to hire house keeper in the first place and that he wanted to fire her. So I said OK but that I was not going to clean this big house by myself. We use to each take a floor and clean then switch the next week. He said that we could go back to the way it was and I said fine. Then monster really came out. Wanted to know why I spent 110.00 on my hair and had my hair done now, and why I had my nails done, always have except that now I have blond extenstions put it. Then wanted commented that I was on the internet for awhile on Saturday and that I joined facebook. Was talking to people on this site and DB site. Then mentions that now I go out and listed EVERYTHING that I have done since the BD. Going to lunch, out for coffee, bar-b-ques with friends. Says for all he knows I'm dating. Funny thing he has NEVER EVER been jealous. but was totally acting that way. Said that now since I look different and my body is different I think that I'm all that. Funny, I lost all of this weight because of what he's done to me. I just listened to him and then when he was attacking me I just said that I was going to bed and walked away. I don't give him power to hurt me anymore and he doesn't like it. Said that we don't have the money for me to do these things and we need to sit down and make a budget. He's the one with expensive taste and loves to spend money. I have never been like that. I went to bed laughing my ass of because I knew that the house keeper thing was just an excuse. It probably starting the whole thing but he just went off in a totally different direction. Yesteday we had the kids over for dinner and except for eating with us he stayed in his man cave. Wouldn't even come back in to have dessert with us. Before I wasn't sure if this was MLC now, I think so.
I know you keep posting about the iPod speaker thing... I'm guessing it's because your H is still all over that...
Thing is... and...??? Really...? They're iPod speakers... are they really expensive or some one of a kind speakers, he can't just run to the store and get another...? I mean really... some of the higher end ones cost $70 maybe, but the run of the mill type that most have are around $15 to $25...
But here's the thing... it is an opportunity for him to use to be all over you, once again, about how everything wrong is your fault... directly or indirectly... common stuff...
The jealousy thing...? AWESOME! Svcks to be him, that you are looking good and taking care of your physical self...
Honestly, with that, I say keep doing what you're doing, it's working...
On the iPod thing, the next time he brings it up, ask him what will solve the problem... That's one of the things that stops my W dead in her tracks, when she's on attack mode... They really just want to dump all over us, because they don't like how they are feeling and they figure misery loves company... Find out what kind of speakers they are, and if they're relatively inexpensive, go buy a set and give them to him and tell him to STFU and you'll ask the cleaner to be more careful...
He's not emotionally detached from you... by no means... just keep your head on straight and try to maintain your sense of humour around this kind of stuff... because really, this stuff is redonkulous...
Svcks to be him, that you are looking good and taking care of your physical self...