Wife wants a divorce,but I do not.

[HHIF]

Wow that's a good question,I do want my wife back,I want to grow old with her and play with our grand kids together,I want to be the kind of husband that she deserves and the kind of father that our kids will be proud of.

I want to be loved and appreciated,I want to get out of debt.

That's off the top of my head.

[MrBond]

"I want to be appreciated,I want to get out of debt."

This is a good start. Now what are you going to do to get there? Exact actions, now vague thoughts.

[HHIF]

MrBond

As far as getting out of debt,the credit cards are gone and I have been picking up extra part time work,only using cash now.

I have worked allot on myself,I was insecure and jealous and that is a big part of what drove her away,I still have some jealous thoughts at times but now I catch myself and realize that it all in my head and she never sees that anymore.

Living like this as roommates for so long is really starting to wear on me.I have worked at being kind toward her without being pushy or pursuing but lately I am feeling more angry and even though I am not giving up at times I feel like just telling her to quit waiting until the kids are gone and go ahead and get this over with.

I am lonely and want some companionship but she has none to offer me and I am not going to cheat on her even though I don't think it would bother her at all,she seems so cold.

She stopped wearing her ring a couple of weeks ago and I think that is when I started felling anger toward her.

[HHIF]

I decided not to go to Thanksgiving at her sisters house today,my wife has this belief that we can get divorced and still be great friends and do family stuff together and our kids will be just fine and I do not agree with that at all so I didn't feel like going over there and acting like one big happy family.

I want her to realize that this TV fantasy that she has about divorce is a bunch of crap and I want some reality of what she is doing to our family to hit home.