Last Monday evening my W threatened to not allow me to see my kids this week when I head to NM and to file a restraining order against me if I move forward with the custody evaluation. After the phone call with her, I immediately contacted my L to protect myself from my W’s craziness. My L sent my W’s L an email basically telling him that my W’s behavior was inappropriate.
About 20 minutes after the first phone call with my W, she called me back. She told me that she would allow me to see the kids and we would have to be cordial with each other. No kidding captain obvious. She also told me that she didn’t want to talk to me anymore, because all I do is continuously hurt her. Her interpretation of me hurting her is that I don’t go along with her plan, because I am fighting for custody of our children. At the end of the convo, we agreed to have no more phone interaction and only communicate via TM or email.
Well come last Thursday, my W’s attitude completely changed. She emailed me about paying half of our children’s school clothes. I transferred the money to our joint account and emailed her back asking questions about my upcoming visit. Her response was a pleasant surprise. I went from being threatened with a restraining order to being allowed into her house to help get our children ready for school this Thursday. Perhaps her attorney set her straight. I have no idea, but it is much better than the alternative. I can’t wait to see my kids.
On Friday, we exchanged additional emails about getting her car registered while I am down there. She can’t get it registered without me or without a divorce decree. I told her that it is no problem and I would help her. Things have completely shifted back to being positive.
On Saturday while I was taking a nap, she texted me 5 times. Some of the messages were questions about our children, but the one that I found strange was, “I am changing my oil. What are you doing?”. I answered her questions about our children, but I did not answer that one. The reason I find it strange is because on Monday she was spewing so much venom my way and now she cares what I am doing. No sense in me trying to figure it out, because it makes no sense.
Yesterday, she took our children to church for the first time since they've been there. I was very happy to hear this. I let her know that it is very much appreciated.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
You are right 2step. I have to be prepared for the unexpected. I cannot trust anything my W does now. Both her and her attorney have been untruthful throughout the court proceedings.
Starsky, Someone spoke some sense into her. Let's see how long it last. My visit will be interesting. No matter what happens, I will be happy to see my kids.
When I return back home on Sunday will be the first time that my W experiences the pain she has caused if saying good bye is anything like putting our kids on an airplane last month. Our D8 is a daddy's girl. It isn't going to be easy.
Thankfully I will be back for Labor Day weekend.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
That is exactly right CS and Starsky. I need to put my complete focus on our children. I'm so anxious to see them on Thursday morning.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
At this time tomorrow I will be getting my children ready for school. I am so stoked to see them. They have no idea that I will be waking them up.
Last night, my S5 asked me twice if I was moving to NM. That is the first time either of my kids has asked that question. If it were only that easy my little man. Only time will tell.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
I am excited for your kids, you will definitely make their day tomorrow!!!!
Cheers
Thanks MHL. I appreciate you chiming in.
I read your post about your journey on Denver's thread yesterday and it helps put things in perspective. That was a fantastic post.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
