realize that what the WAS hears when you text that
is, "stay with me even if you are miserable, b/c I'm so needy"...
Not attractive and NOT helpful and NOT seen as loving...
hope that helps.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Even if she only agrees to go "for the kids", it's a good idea to just get her there.
I saw couples who only had one partner there to save the m, and yet they seemed to benefit a lot.
I know we did.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Fairly good weekend at home. I was asked to stay and go to the zoo with the kids, and then we went to dinner and I stayed an extra night. W even asked me if I wanted some of her dinner that she wasn't going to finish. We rented some movies with the kids and I saw a guy I knew working there. I introduced her as my W, expected to hear about that later, but did not. I wasn't always the best at introducing her to people...
Trying to remain upbeat. A lot of things have not happened... no seperate bank account, no sep agreement, no move closer to MIL for support... More time at home with everyone. I just want to push, push, push. I want to move home and start getting this behind us.
Why is it that every time we spend time together and it goes fairly well it is followed by distance and coldness? Is that normal? Is it good? is it expected? Is that too many questions all at once?
Why is it that every time we spend time together and it goes fairly well it is followed by distance and coldness? Is that normal? Is it good? is it expected? Is that too many questions all at once?
It's part of their 'script'. Yes. Dunno about good, it just is. Yes. No
The sooner you realize this dynamic, the sooner you can prepare yourself for it. It doesn't get easy, just easier.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
Thanks. I know all of that, but it is just too difficult to do sometimes. I want a magic bullet, to say the right thing which will get us back. Maybe not on track, but at least at the same train station...
