Hi OMW - glad things seem to be moving for you. One warning, from my perspective, your wife has to fix herself. You cannot fix her. You can be part of her movement to a healthier, happier life, but beware of her issues. Does that make sense? I've done all sorts of things to accept myself and improve myself...H has done some things too..but under it all, he's a pretty broken guy. The guilt, self doubt, depression, and self esteem issues that rolled into all this are aggravated by the knowledge that he had an affair and blew up his family. You're going to need some room to push back and be angry eventually (some of those early feelings will come back)- she's got to get to a place where she can take that and come right back, showing she is there for the long haul. Scary for her, as you mentioned, since it's a bit commitment. GL - thinking of you!
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem
