My husband told me about 3 weeks ago that he is seeing someone as he is no longer happy in our marriage. As you can imagine I was heartbroken. I was also unhappy for a while but I was sure we can work it out so I suggested we do as we've been together for 10 years. He refused and even left at one point for over a week to think which was basically free time to see her and party like he's 20 again. I have no doubt in my mind it's MLC but to be honest it doesn't matter.. Things suck either way. I told him I no longer want anything to do with him, he moved home that same day. He does not want the married life, nor can he 'love' me, nor will he stop contact with the ow, who I think doesn't care about him that much. He keeps giving excuses and says they are friends and not even in touch anymore. I checked his cellphone about a week ago and saw that he's been calling her but she doesn't answer. Then and there I decided I will not be a choice in my own marriage especially not a second choice and have tried to the best of my ability to do a 180 and it seems to be working. He asks me out to dinner, parties, to the beach but I turn him down. I'm not sure at this point what the story is with the ow, but I want him to realize I'm no toy to be put aside and come back to when he feels like. Am I on the right path? Is it a good idea not to do anything with him? Im a bit confused and lost, but I know bagging and crying does not work
