Understanding simple things

[Lonely Room]

Hi there,

Today it's 1 month and 2 days since my wife and I are separated. And tomorrow it's the 4th anniversary of the day we met. You can read all about it here:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2166571

In the last month we only exchanged emails 3 times about practical things, like bank accounts, etc.. All very direct and clear emails, without any emotions.

Last Friday I had to return the car to her, as she was left without one. I managed to get a new one for myself. So, I sent her a clear and concise email explaining that, and that I topped-up the oil, water, checked the tyres, etc..

She replied 20 minutes later in a very happy tone, saying that if I needed anything I could ask, offering help with the insurance for the new car, asking what car I was driving now, and so on. Later, in the afternoon, I replied in a mixed-happy tone, saying that I had just dropped her car, and telling her what car I was driving, leaving the email in an open manner.

She never replied. Today, after 4 days, she replies! Thanking me for returning the car, for checking the oil, water and tyres. She also left a funny comment about my new car.

I don't get it. Why bother answering after 4 days?!? I really don't get it, I wish I could understand these things but I don't. Does any of you have any clue?

Thank you very much for your time and attention, regards.

[Starsky309]

Maybe she's DBing you.

[Lonely Room]

Maybe she's DBing you.

Makes sense. She used to participate a lot in online forums like eNotAlone, etc..

[Lonely Room]

Today is the 4th anniversary of the day my wife and I met, and I'm feeling really low. I tried to imagine how I would feel, but never thought I could feel this low.

I just wish to send her a small message, saying that we have nothing to celebrate but still I wish she has a nice day. What I really wish was to send her flowers, a nice message, saying that I still love her more than anything in the world. But I know that she doesn't want that.

I don't know what to do. I feel so empty for not mentioning this day, that was the more important day of the year for me in the last 4 years.

Do you have some words that might comfort me and make me forget? Thank you.