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Re: 65 Days... dbmod #2164880 07/01/11 03:04 AM
Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,408 G gucci loafer Member
gucci loafer Member G Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,408	Quote: Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes Denver, You and others are AGAIN making this way more complicated than it really is.. Making it way DEEPER than it really is.. Lighten up. Women rarely leave a happy man.. You have NOT been a happy man according to what I have observed.. You and your wife said you were NOT happy with her when you were together.. You were NOT happy when she wanted out.. You are NOT happy now because you are focused on your limbo.. Guess what is the common thread here? YEP.. You always seem unhappy. It comes across in your posts too.. You are like Dorothy in the "Wizard Of Oz".. You HAVE had the secret the whole time here but you keep looking for something drastic or dramatic and deep... HERE IT IS...... be ready this is DEEP... LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN.. That's it.. Deep huh? But it IS without a doubt your answer.. All of the deep posts and psycho babble you keep hearing is wasted energy.. LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN.. You WILL find then that all your troubles will start to vanish.... Be happy JUST the way things are in your life.. Be happy.. That's it.. I have been doing this for THIRTY years.. Happy men, fun men..... THEY get and keep the woman.. Trust me.. I AM a happy man.... Happy men are like a magnet to women.. Happy, confident, mature... STOP trying to make this so deep... It isn't.. LEARN TO BE HAPPY.. If you don't learn that, EVEN is she does reconcile it won't work because you will THEN find something else to be unhappy about. You are already warning us of what that unhappiness will be, such as.. "can I forgive her? can I forget? can I this? can I that?... Happy men don't think that way Denver... Get a grip on yourself... LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN...

Re: 65 Days... dbmod #2164883 07/01/11 03:16 AM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 2,157 D dbmod Member
dbmod Member D Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 2,157	sbh-- I read your post similar to the way 25 does...you appear to be putting pressure on Denver. Denver's approach is working well for him. I don't believe your advice is good advice for him, and it isn't the high road. Your buddy's tactic in his divorce could be part of the same attitudes that lead to him getting divorced in the first place. If your advice isn't welcomed, move on. dbmod

Re: 65 Days... gucci loafer #2164886 07/01/11 03:21 AM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 2,157 D dbmod Member
dbmod Member D Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 2,157	Originally Posted By: gucci loafer Quote: Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes Denver, You and others are AGAIN making this way more complicated than it really is.. Making it way DEEPER than it really is.. Lighten up. Women rarely leave a happy man.. You have NOT been a happy man according to what I have observed.. You and your wife said you were NOT happy with her when you were together.. You were NOT happy when she wanted out.. You are NOT happy now because you are focused on your limbo.. Guess what is the common thread here? YEP.. You always seem unhappy. It comes across in your posts too.. You are like Dorothy in the "Wizard Of Oz".. You HAVE had the secret the whole time here but you keep looking for something drastic or dramatic and deep... HERE IT IS...... be ready this is DEEP... LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN.. That's it.. Deep huh? But it IS without a doubt your answer.. All of the deep posts and psycho babble you keep hearing is wasted energy.. LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN.. You WILL find then that all your troubles will start to vanish.... Be happy JUST the way things are in your life.. Be happy.. That's it.. I have been doing this for THIRTY years.. Happy men, fun men..... THEY get and keep the woman.. Trust me.. I AM a happy man.... Happy men are like a magnet to women.. Happy, confident, mature... STOP trying to make this so deep... It isn't.. LEARN TO BE HAPPY.. If you don't learn that, EVEN is she does reconcile it won't work because you will THEN find something else to be unhappy about. You are already warning us of what that unhappiness will be, such as.. "can I forgive her? can I forget? can I this? can I that?... Happy men don't think that way Denver... Get a grip on yourself... LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN... It is silly to say women rarely leave a happy man. Women leave happy men all the time, especially if they are having their happiness outside of the marriage. But the bottom line here is twofold and Gucci's advice is good ... here: 1) It's a good observation that you don't appear to be happy. 2) It's a good idea for you to spend your time making yourself happy. Last edited by dbmod; 07/01/11 03:32 AM. dbmod

Re: 65 Days... dbmod #2164899 07/01/11 04:24 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 667 G grr Member
grr Member G Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 667	gosh denver, my friend.........a lot of people have very strong opinions on what you should or should not do...... i have said this before (and i am a woman, so will gladly repeat myself)....only you know your wife only you know your history and what brought you to this place trust your gut you have come a long way i think you are doing great and you sure know how to rile people up- don't you xoxo me BITS

Re: 65 Days... grr #2164903 07/01/11 04:35 AM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 13,511 Likes: 1 CA- now East coast 2 25yearsmlc Member
25yearsmlc Member 2 Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 13,511 Likes: 1 CA- now East coast	well Denver, truth be told you do kinda borrow trouble from yesterday AND tomorrow... "hows" about NOT doing that anymore? yeah yeah, "easier said than done" but do it anyway. M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 2016 X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016 = CLOSURE 4 ME Embrace the Change

Re: 65 Days... gucci loafer #2164927 07/01/11 12:21 PM
Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 6,810 Florida S Starsky309 Member
Starsky309 Member S Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 6,810 Florida	Originally Posted By: gucci loafer Quote: Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes Denver, You and others are AGAIN making this way more complicated than it really is.. Making it way DEEPER than it really is.. Lighten up. Women rarely leave a happy man.. You have NOT been a happy man according to what I have observed.. You and your wife said you were NOT happy with her when you were together.. You were NOT happy when she wanted out.. You are NOT happy now because you are focused on your limbo.. Guess what is the common thread here? YEP.. You always seem unhappy. It comes across in your posts too.. You are like Dorothy in the "Wizard Of Oz".. You HAVE had the secret the whole time here but you keep looking for something drastic or dramatic and deep... HERE IT IS...... be ready this is DEEP... LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN.. That's it.. Deep huh? But it IS without a doubt your answer.. All of the deep posts and psycho babble you keep hearing is wasted energy.. LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN.. You WILL find then that all your troubles will start to vanish.... Be happy JUST the way things are in your life.. Be happy.. That's it.. I have been doing this for THIRTY years.. Happy men, fun men..... THEY get and keep the woman.. Trust me.. I AM a happy man.... Happy men are like a magnet to women.. Happy, confident, mature... STOP trying to make this so deep... It isn't.. LEARN TO BE HAPPY.. If you don't learn that, EVEN is she does reconcile it won't work because you will THEN find something else to be unhappy about. You are already warning us of what that unhappiness will be, such as.. "can I forgive her? can I forget? can I this? can I that?... Happy men don't think that way Denver... Get a grip on yourself... LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN... Wisdom. ^^^ Starsky M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07 At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)

Re: 65 Days... dbmod #2164929 07/01/11 12:23 PM
Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 6,810 Florida S Starsky309 Member
Starsky309 Member S Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 6,810 Florida	Originally Posted By: dbmod If your advice isn't welcomed, move on. If it isn't welcomed by the person whose thread it is, I agree. I haven't seen where Denver has asked him to stop posting to him. Isn't that Denver's call? Such thin skins around here lately! Starsky M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07 At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)

Re: 65 Days... Truegritter #2164932 07/01/11 12:32 PM
Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 6,810 Florida S Starsky309 Member
Starsky309 Member S Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 6,810 Florida	Originally Posted By: Truegritter [/quote] Who are you and can you bring back Snarky Starsky? Oh, he's still around. M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07 At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)

Re: 65 Days... Starsky309 #2164933 07/01/11 12:37 PM
Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 147 D direction1 Member
direction1 Member D Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 147	"Unreasonable Happiness." Have you read, Way of the Peaceful Warrior?" One of those word-of-mouth books thats been around for years. Me: 38 W: 34 D:10,8,5 S: 3 M: 12 T: 13 Bomb:2/1/11 Sep: 3/2/11 WAW Filed: 4/1/11 MC: 3/11-5/11 Pre-trial: 8/30/11

Re: 65 Days... direction1 #2164934 07/01/11 12:41 PM
Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 6,810 Florida S Starsky309 Member
Starsky309 Member S Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 6,810 Florida	Are you asking me, Direction, or Denver? I've never read that book myself, although I've heard of it. Starsky M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07 At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)

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