Hi, My husband of almost 20 years dropped the bomb last month. I have gotten through most of the early bad stuff, but now am dealing with his weirdness. I posted before (a lengthy one) and it hasn't shown up, so I don't want to be too repetitive in this post, but if anyone out there can relate - I'm dealing with MLC issues in him and as I have read, getting a read on his behavior is tricky at best. I love hearing the success stories from you guys, but mostly feel good that I'm not in this alone.
JustBombed - I'm also new and I'm sorry to meet you here. My husband of 10 years dropped a bomb about 3 weeks ago - it's not a fun boat to share with you. I'm looking forward to reading your story - there seem to be more men with WAW on the board than there are women, so perhaps I'll get some good ideas from you.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
The first thing I would ask you is, how are you taking care of yourself? I've been to counseling and am trying to grow as a person on my own. He's still at home, but he's just weird, sometimes like old times, sometimes surly, sometimes just quiet. I know (from my C) that I got lost in my marriage, and I really have to work on finding myself. So I'm trying to spend more time with friends, get out and do more stuff, and be more fun with my kids. Of course, it's not easy and I'm impatient. I want to be better NOW! But change takes time, I suppose, and as much as I hate it, I'll just have to take it as it comes.
Sorry to find you here. Its going to take time and patience, more than you could ever even imagine.
You are very lucky that he is still in the house with you. It allows you the opportunity for him to see the new you. Make sure you go and GAL and start the 180s asap.
If you didn't get the books yet, get them, read them again and again.
I hope you are one of the lucky ones too.
H:41 W:44 D1:19 D2:17 S:13 D3:7 T:20 M:18 Bomb:1/5/11 Sep:2/18/11 No D filed yet; just threats
