Three months ago my husband of 23 years sat down and told me he is DONE. Exhausted with our relationship. He says the financial issues and us not connecting for the past 2 years have done him in. He says he needs to do things for him, mentions a bucket list (he is 53) and that he has prob 25 years left and I have sucked the life out of him. Well yes, I am not perfect but all of the issues we have are certainly repairable. We also had our only daughter go off to college in the fall. Really hard for both of us. He continues on the path to Divorce and I Am So terrified that he means it! This is a man who truly adored me and our family. I am Lost !
we need information to know how to help you. How long have you been m? Other kids? Are you Both working? What are his issues?
IOW, what would HE say if he were here, about you and the issues in the m that have "exhausted" him so much?
Don't freak too much, there's almost always hope and we've seen lots of crazy things here that ended up alright. But we need some backstory. Keep posting, you are in the right place.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Hi, I am sorry it took me so long to get back, we have been married for 23 years together 26. We have one daughter off to college last year finished her 1st year. Awesome kid but we poored our life into her. I have been unemployed for the last 2 years and my income was very helpful. I am in New Home Sales have been for over 20 years very hard to reinvent yourself although I got a job 3 months ago so thats good. He says it always has to be my way, I am stubborn and that he has carried us for the last couple years. Well I guess thats what marriages are about is having each others backs when things get tough. I never asked for the market to be the worst it has ever been in history. I guess I feel as long as everything is fine in our lives I am ok , but we have a major struggle and you want out. He says it has been coming for awhile as our relationship has been horribly neglected. I have been working hard on my issues , tapes counseling and reading to get myself together and fix some things. I am not sure if there is someone else or a mid-life crisis but I Never thought he would be done with me.
Yep, you're not alone. My W pulled the "I'm just Done" speech on me right as things got GOOD in life (done with really stressful years, on way to comfortable retirement). That statement of "I'm just Done" was one of the most painful things I've heard.
Hang in there and remember that the only thing you can change is yourself... do things to take care of YOU. This is rough stuff.
