After this weekend where she openly went to the theatre with OM his oldest son and my youngest. Its way out in the open and there is nothing left to do but detach. she has made her choice and is now showing it without any reservations.
One of my best friends saw them in the city's Silver City as a blended family I suppose. He said it was bizarre for him to see that as he was so used to seeing us as a family with the same van. It was surreal for him. Most of the same players with a couple of trades I think is how he phrased it.
I will continue to be nice to her with zero expectations. I mean, i think that is a statement in itself.
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BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
Dont worry Country , you have never offended me. I know I have been all over the map the last few months. I was a grounded person I think but I am questioning that as well.
Anyway, I consider you somebody I would love to hang with and dont take anything you say in any way but a positve slant.
You will make it dude. I know you will.
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BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
No, i want to be a strong person that understands things better and doesnt react to hardships. I want to be the BEST father for my boys. We have a great relationship and I dont want THAT to EVER be diminished.
I want to assess situations and not let things get to me.
I am passionate about life and sometimes that serves me very well and other times ... Well you know.
I just want to be happy again. Look forward to things and NOT think about HER most of the time.
That is what I want right now! That is all I can hope for in the near future.
Im not 100% sure which thread you meant though to be honest. My rather lengthy one " Mission 25"
No I dont want to be the man portrayed in that however, I did mention to one of our guidance councillers that I wanted to change.
She said " dont change too much because we like you here, alot"
I did appreciate that but i know I need to change some things.
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BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
what Mach1 and Country Song said...sometime soon 9, you'll choose to change.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
9, as our sitchs have unfolded I think we have been right in course with one another, down almost to the day I think.
For me, it was part decision and part time, emotionally anyway. Embrace your current state. Be the beat you you can be. Enjoy life. Don't worry about her. She is lost. You can't lead her home, and you don't want to follow her path. It leads nowhere good. You know the path to take, now get up and go there. Control wha you can, your future, where you are going. It is not about you and her anymore. It is about you and your boys.
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M:34 W:28 SD:9 D:6 (pr) M:3 T:6 Separated 1/16/11 ILYBNILWY 10/25/10 PA discovered 11/12/10, began about 10/1/10
I am not who I was, I am being remade, I am new...
Nine - You and I are in much the same spot right now. Our STBX's are openly involved with OM and not even hiding it from our children. That's how right they believe they are. They believe whole heartedly that they deserve this happiness.
We really do have only one choice - to detach, go dark, LRT - whatever you want to call it. But you and I, also have one thing is common, we simply don't want that choice. We hate feeling that we are stuck in a corner that we didn't choose. Still, that is the reality and somehow we have to move forward. Even as I type this, I don't know exactly how to do so, but I also know, that some day we will be whole again. We deserve that.
