Living and keep praying

[Holly06]

Tipper,

Glad you got that. Actually, I was thinking of you when I wrote it.

You are doin' fine!

[beatrice]

My goodness Holly, your post about the old times got me thinking! Do you remember Baseball Annie? And the pool boys? Was it fun because we all had hope then? Also I think we could be more open . . . . .

I have come to see getting through MLC as going through a maze, but one with several paths through it. There isn't a single right way, but if we keep coming up against a dead-end then perhaps we need to find another direction!

I also see MLCers as living in their own reality, and speaking from that 'distorted' or changed reality A bit like teaching math with base 8 instead of base 10. When you get that it all makes more sense. Except of course with a MLCer the base keeps changing. I wish I had realised that they are not actually crazy, in the irrational sense, but acting out another reality which seems real to them.

The other thing I have come to see is that they are not happy - perhaps initially for up to 2 years when the euphoria of their new life takes over for a time, but even then, there are doubts. They wouldn't shout so loud it they were confident. Then they are stuck and miserable. The smart ones start to do some thinking, but the rest seem to become victims.

Anyway your life sounds really good, and I am so happy for you. So is mine, in my own peculiar way - I have bought a wonderful old wreck of a house with cottages attached which I am renovating . . slowly. I intend to make it into a retreat for writers and people who want a bit of time out. You have to enjoy living in a building site and having not very good nails, and doing a lot of work yourself, but it is fun and people are constantly coming to stay and offer some help, or cook me meals in the primitive kitchen. Although 7 months of the year we live mainly outside. Very different from my former life. I think I an potentially a peasant! Must go and hoe the tomatoes.

[25yearsmlc]

I also recall the pool boys and Baseball Annie (a fellow L), and Was2 who SO helped me, and Puff Daddy lizzette's MLC H and "watching the parade from the sidewalk"...and I recall how much I actually laughed here.

Believe it or not, I remember it fondly. Hmm, How weird is that?

[beatrice]

. . . Puff Daddy lizzette's MLC H and "watching the parade from the sidewalk"...and I recall how much I actually laughed here.

Believe it or not, I remember it fondly. Hmm, How weird is that?

So do I - I had forgotten that Lisette called her xh Puff Daddy. I hope she is doing well. I occasionally exchange emails with BBA. I guess like it says in the Tale of Two Cities 'It was the best of times, it was the worst of times . . .' but we survived, and are thriving.

[25yearsmlc]

amen ^^^ to that sistah!

[seeking answers]

Oh ladies, it does sound like you had some fun!

I'm working hard to get to the thriving part!

[beatrice]

SA you will get there, I promise.

[dolphin_05]

Anyone interested in creating a thread

"The best advice EVER on how to survive your spouse's MLC?????

Yes, pls do. In my situation with a H who is in constant contact, still has ow but is showing signs of significant introspection I need all the reading and shared experience possible!!

Cas

[25yearsmlc]

I'll bring the popcorn and sunglasses, (and umbrella for the tough dark rainy days). It might be a long parade.

Holly06, you want me to?

[Sanderika]

[quote=Holly06]Anyone interested in creating a thread

"The best advice EVER on how to survive your spouse's MLC?????

Yes!!

Holly, this would be a very beneficial thread for all.

Please do....

Sanderika