I was thinking about getting some flowers for her and having a double meaning. One from the kids and a card expressing my sorrow for her MOM's death. This will be the first one since her mom died in March.
Just a simple note like, : " I know this will be a tough day for you, remember you have children that love you ( and I dont know how to finish this) any thoughts.
This board is usually excellent in this dept.
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With that frying pan - I think it was adding insult to injury to get it 2 months later....like, I didn't forget your birthday, I just didn't care enough to exert effort to do something for you on or around the actual date...THEN, 2 month later you remind her that you didn't care and top it off by phoning in with a frying pan (not bad on a birthday, but not hot as an I am sorry I waited so long to get you this gift)?
Just a woman's take. It might have be funny if you were getting along at the time. My H was ocassionally awesome at gifts, but usually terrible...he's been very focused lately on doing better and it means a lot to me.
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem
I am helping the kids (6,8) make craft projects for her. A mosaic frame, and a small jewelry holder.
My opinion is that if I did not do this, it would put the kids too much in the middle. After all, she still is their mother, even if she is choosing not to be my wife.
I am in middle of LRT, and she is determined to be done, just not gone yet.
Why would I give her anything from me? Especially now, I just don't get that. No way.
I have been through this twice now. Guys who are debating the whole mothers day thing, Your kids will always hjave their mother, that won't change. For those with young kids it is OK for you to get a gift for their mom, from THEM.
Your kids are learning from your action guys.
Do not have ant expectations other than you are doing the right thing for your kids.
Do not expect the WAW to show any gratitude towardss you.
It's about the lkids and ends there.
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So given the events of the last several days I never had a chance to do a craft project with D for mothers day.
I am planning on just sending her a text with a pic of D today.
I should be seeing W tomorrow, so I thought about getting a card and giving it to her "from D" but then it is late. I also thought about still doing a project with D this week and giving it to her, but then it is even more late.
Any thoughts? Better late than never? Or just a reinforcement of my old behavior?
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I think the card from D is in order. With everything that's going on, if you give it to her tomorrow, I don't think it's that big of deal - so better late than never.
Well I sent the text like I said. I also asked her to let her mom and sisters know I was thinking of them as well. She responded:
Thank you. That means a lot. You are a great dad!
I'm still debating on doing anything else tomorrow. I know it would technically be from D, but the reality is it would be me doing it. Just don't want to push it.
IDK. Emotions are strong with all of this going on.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Just a woman's take. It might have be funny if you were getting along at the time. My H was ocassionally awesome at gifts, but usually terrible...he's been very focused lately on doing better and it means a lot to me.