LL, sounds like your h is trying...just does not get that he has to repeat it everyday...Men..can't seem to live with them, yet we really don't want to live without them(well, most of the time)hope good things keep coming your way.. Sue
Hi LL, I hear your frustration, I know your struggle. Some guys just dont get it. Your guy was attracted to a live wire, someone that made him laugh gave him lots of fun. I have tried to switch the tide and have him give me back what I gave him. It just doesn't work. I have told him exactly what I want from my man. Right down to dotting the I's and crossing the T's. I realize that I am the entertainer, I am the one that gives this relationship life. So, I take what I want hugs, kiss's and leave it at that. I needed to stop thinking that the reason he wasn't doing it was because he wasn't interested. My suggestion to get back to the person you enjoyed and be that person. Don't let someone upset your apple cart. You know the rest.... Loretta
so far three days in a row of the good h...ok not the perfect h but the very good h anyway.. don't know what the correlation is but I'm not going to stop what I'm doing anyway...focussing on me...doing my own thing...the next couple of days might be tough as it is going to snow but I still have some work to do in the dining room so that should keep me busy in the evening while h is out plowing and I'll do my best to not be bothered if h spends any time at his apartment..I will do as h suggested the last time he stayed there and consider it office space.
Great LL, just remember there are bound to be down days..for who knows why...h tired..worried..it doesn't mean he is thinking or feeling any different towards you..try to do the fun things for you at those times.
We got some of the snow but sounds like the east is really getting it...spring is only about a month away!! Sue
ll, thinking of you with all this crazy weather! we went for a walk this am. my pom(little fat dog) loved it! my h is fast asleep which is not unusual. he sleeps like a baby and i toss and turn. not fair. hope you are not going stir crazy. we watched lady and the tramp and it was the longest my d has ever sat still. plus she is sick. when will it ever be spring?????????lisa
doing my best to deal with the snow... h left yesterday to go out and get ready for the storm...was out plowing til 1 am but did call a few times and even called at 12:30 to say he was on his way home...seems like he's more alive too...not just I'll be home at such and such but little comments and conversation..came in about 2am after plowing our driveway and slept for a bit...actually overslept and left at 7:30. has called a few times to say hello...had fil come over to shovel for us and fil stayed with the kids so I could make a diaper run. don't know what time h will be home as it may snow again...he is currently waiting in out and possibly cathcing a few winks at buddies house...(makes me feel better that he's there and not at apartment) doing my best at accepting this is his job and it's ok that he's not here and it will be ok if he does come home before I go to sleep only to fall asleep himself. been doing laundry and hanging with the kiddos...god I can't wait for summer!!!
I do hope the good participating h stays around!!! and I sure hope it is not just a mask for something bad going on.
LL who's currently burried under 2 feet of white stuff!!! ugh!!