My W will not communicate other than reacting to negative news from me, or when we talk about kid topics.
I could say my wife is a WAS. I could say she's MLC. I could say there's at least EA, if there has not been PA. But none of that matters at this time. I simply want to open the lines of communication with her and with feedback from her, finally know where she stands. She could just be stuck on one or two things that can be resolved, that we can work out, but without that, we move towards D.
So I'm wondering if piecing might be a way of opening up communication or once I figure out how to open up communications, if piecing is a way to take one thing at a time, in it's time and context, to work towards R.
From my experience in Piecing, you're breaking alot of the rules of real DBing. You have to talk about the Relationship. You say, "I love you." You are opening your self up to potentially get hurt.
In Piecing, you are basically building a relationship...except your doing that with someone who has previously hurt you.
If both of you are not actively working toward a relationship together, then you really cannot piece alone.
If there is no effort or desire on her part, then the things you do in piecing can be filed under pursuit, and pressure from you.
So for me, my answer is, I don't think so Diem.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
one person can DB, but it takes two to piece. And that ain't easy either!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
