So, I've been praying for God to let me know what He wants me to do...I told him whatever His will is, I will obey.
TOday, I was in the grocery store. All of a sudden, I hear my name being called. It was my W's cousin. He came up to me and told me that he didn't know why he came in the store except for the fact that he felt I was in there and he wanted to talk to me. THis is a very big store. He starts telling me that he heard what is going on with my W and I and wanted me to know that him AND his whole family have been telling her to go back to me and to work it out. I told him that the funny thing is that I am finaly the person she would want to be with. He said that she told them I had changed but didn't think it would stick. They told her to come back and find out.
If that isn't God telling me to keep on fighting, I don't know what is. So, I am going to remove myself from match.com and will just be friends with the people who have emailed me already.
I've got a renewed fire in me right now. I really needed this! Thank you Lord!!!!
I'm so glad for you Brian. Wish something like that would happen for me too. So far, God is speechless and isn't listening to my prayers.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
Nothing new to report. No contact for the past 5 days. I had a good weekend. Went to a bar with a friend and got hit on! That was a good confidence booster. Walked/ran 7 miles on Saturday then did the yard.
The whole on-line dating thing is just not what you want to do at this juncture. You are just starting your journey for YOU. It is not fair to bring another person into your life right now. Was it Mach that said...Are you really the kind of guy that would jump onto Match and simply replace your wife? You need to weigh this statement heavily.
You have to remember that problems are portable, that your journey to the new you is going to take ALOT of time and effort. So if you started dating now, you would only be doing more of the same in a new relationship. I understand the loniliness can eat you alive, but you can't let that define who you are. That is screaming co-dependecy.
If the D happens, let it. Don't fight it because it's only going to prove to your W that she was right in her decision to file. Keep working on Brian because Brian is the most important person right now.
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
I'm not doing any online dating. I went to the bar with my best friend. The girl that hit on me, I wasn't attracted to anyways.
I hear what you are saying though and agree with you. As far as the D goes, I am actually ready for it. As soon as that lawyer emails me with the next draft, I am going to go sign it. Thanks for the reply Zen It's nice to hear from you again.
I'm not doing any online dating. I went to the bar with my best friend. The girl that hit on me, I wasn't attracted to anyways.
I hear what you are saying though and agree with you. As far as the D goes, I am actually ready for it. As soon as that lawyer emails me with the next draft, I am going to go sign it. Thanks for the reply Zen It's nice to hear from you again.
So if what you said is true, why then did you sign-up for Match? Was it for your ego? What if you were attracted to the girl that hit on you at the bar? Questions that I don't need answers to, but you questions you have to weigh and answer them for yourself. Just remember the decisions you make are they getting you closer or farther from your goals? Only YOU know the answer to that question.
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
It's nice to hear from you again.