Have been doing LRT for too long. WAW sent an email today requesting the items she wants from the house. Asking for things she knows I would like.
D is final in less than 2 mo.
Friends say she still cries. Do you at some point break down and tell them you know this is a mistake or let it take it's course.
I so want to send her a book I found on what it means to forgive, even if it means it won't help our sitch.
"We" like most of you had something so great, not so long ago. How could I have been so blind!
"We laughed until we had to cry, we loved right down to our last goodbye, but over the years we'll smile and recall, for just one moment we had it all."
Exactly Grrr, and no one really knows when it is time to give up. The balance between being disrespected and trying to save something you trully believe in is something I struggle with everyday. Almost every moment.
Unfortunately, only time will solve this puzzle. What you do in the meantime is key.
People on this board will say Dont pressure or persue. This will send them running but again, sometimes they need a gentle reminder. But it cant be from you, if that makes any sense.
If they love you and want to save it , they will look to see what you are doing in your life and weigh to see if that is what they want I think.
No easy answers but this is not an easy Problem.
Best of luck.
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Can you tell us what the LRT looks like in your situation? Everyone seems to have a different spin on this and I would like to know specifically what you are doing.
You ask whether you should let her know if this is a mistake. What did you tell her when she told you she wanted a divorce? Have you already made it known that you do not want the divorce and that you love her?
