I had previously made a complete post of my situation, with updates, and lots of wonderful supportive replies from members.
What I realized is that, while nothing I wrote was terribly critical to my wife or in a proper setting I wouldn't share all of what I said, but I could not accept the possibility that she would come visit the site and read the details. We are just not in a place where I can be open with her, and I know she is not open with me right now.
Due to the details contained in the post, she would have been able to instantly recognize the post as about she and I.
So thank you again for the support, I did read and save it all. I am continuing to finish the DR book, and am immediately implementing the "last resort" 180 technique. I am doing this just as much for my own sanity to move on for myself, as I am in the (vague) hopes the distance, space, and curiosity will enlighten her thoughts. I can't get my hopes up, I must move on in my mind no matter her mood.
