My H has admitted to an EA, says it started in September and ended in November. He has appeared to be trying hard to regain my trust etc. However, whenever I read about behavior of men who had affairs, it sounds like how my H was. I know I should get over and try to move on too, but I don't know how I will trust him if he lied about it being an EA (mostly texting).
Me-36 H-37 D11 S8 S6 M9 T19 ILYNILWY 11/10 discover EA 02/11 discover EA is really PA/H moved out 03/11 H wants to go to counselling,piecing 12/11 Find out still OW(plural), I'm officially done/detached 04/12
Have you looked into the Retrouvaille program? The website is www.helpourmarriage.org. They have a great success rate in helping people to recover from infidelity and other marital problems. It worked a miracle for my marriage.
Thank you Lotus. Is this in other countries other than U.S.? We have started MC and I have a DB coach, but I was wondering if we need something else. The MC is through H's work. While I like the therapist, we only get 6 sessions....I think we need more than that! I could fill the 6 with my feelings.
Me-36 H-37 D11 S8 S6 M9 T19 ILYNILWY 11/10 discover EA 02/11 discover EA is really PA/H moved out 03/11 H wants to go to counselling,piecing 12/11 Find out still OW(plural), I'm officially done/detached 04/12
Yes, there are programs in many countries, but the Retrouvaille program began in Canada and then people requested it in the US and many other countries. They have a lot of Retro programs in Canada, some in English and some in French. Of course, the name of the program comes from the French, to find again. Because you are finding again the spouse you once loved and the joy in being married.
This kind of a new question, but do you ever feel like your are becoming the OW, at least in H's eyes? Its only been a week since he moved out, but he keeps trying to contact me. He's even texted me to see if he can text/call me later. Weird.
Me-36 H-37 D11 S8 S6 M9 T19 ILYNILWY 11/10 discover EA 02/11 discover EA is really PA/H moved out 03/11 H wants to go to counselling,piecing 12/11 Find out still OW(plural), I'm officially done/detached 04/12
It's not at all unusual, Canadian. It's why one of the warning signs for an affair is when a spouse suddenly stops KISSING you -- they feel like they're actually cheating on their affair partner, as sick as that sounds.
