I made my first post yeserday and have had no response. Since the first week in Jan. I pleaded for my WAW to give us another chance, she said we only have a special friendship and cannot forget the time I wasn't there for her and we need to go our seperate ways. Since then we only communicate through texts about bills. She does come to town once a week to see the dog who recently had another acl surgery. ( this dog is our kid) There is some small talk but never about r. After that conv. in Jan. she said please be my friend. I told her that I couldn't now, maybe someday. I have been in the dark since but doing things I enjoy . My d is final in two months. Am I going about this right? I want so bad to fight for this and try to reason w her. I'm feel really LOST! The feeling of helplessness [censored].
When our spouses throw the D bomb at us, i think all of us react similarly. So dont worry about how you have reacted until now.
Dont plead, beg, cry or in any way show your wife that you are needy. Seek help from friends or good family members, or this forum if you need emotional support
If your wife wants a divorce and set on it, you cannot control her mind to change. She needs to make that decision herself. I am going through the same thing. My wife wants final divorce decree signed next week or so. Look, divorce is just a legal paper. Your M is over only when you feel like it is over.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
How long have you been together and roughly what age?
Have her complaints been mostly about you, or has she talked more about herself (mid-life crisis type stuff)?
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
