Advice -I am expecting a "talk" about D shortly

[Queen_of_Swords]

I received an unpleasant reminder of the state of our R the other day. Totally put me into a full blown fight/flight/panic reaction that it took me several hours to recover from.
I spoke to my DB coach and have developed a plan in how to deal with this latest development.

However, what do I do to make sure my H understands in no uncertain terms I will do nothing to encourage or facilitate a D, I do not agree with it, I think we have something salvagable between us. (I know I daren't say I love him, although if anything and paradoxically my feeling has grown for him lately in some ways, and in others...meh.)

I know one member here had a great way to say it, but I can't find it.

Help, please?

[verysad2day]

I would also love to know the phrase. I, too am expecting this Sunday night

[JustStunned]

IDK if this is what you are looking for:

Truegritter recently posted some words he picked up on this board. You may wish to adapt to your sitch:

W, I've told you before that I still love you and still think that we can have a great life together as both a couple and a family. I've not changed my mind on that. But I understand you are not happy, that you do not feel happy or complete inside.

You need to do what will make you happy. By my side, we live as partners, we share everything and we would do anything to help one another. But that's only if we continue as a team.

I won't stand in your way. But I also will not help you leave this marriage or this family. And I will never accept another person being a part of our life together.

I hope you find the happiness you are looking for. Go do what you need to do. You know where I will be.

[Queen_of_Swords]

Thank You! That's exactly what I was looking for!