how would i handle MIL funeral if she dies

[rysmom]

H and i are separated for 1 yr. m for 22 yrs. my 81 yr old MIL is in the hospital very sick. She has a heart condition, and her colon ruptured and she has a bad infection because of it. I often thought about what i would do if i had to go to wake and funeral if ow is going to be there. it would be a very awkward situation. I guess i would respect how h would want it. Any suggestions?

[g450]

Well personally I would ask my In laws about how they feel.

I visited my MIL and she still loves me. But my XW now refuses to talk to her out of her own guilt and shame (affair). Her mother was a strict Catholic and did not like what she did.

Its really up to you. Ask yourself this...what would your MIL want? Ask her now while she is still alive to get this out of the way with no questions from XH.

[rysmom]

g450
Thanks for your reply. H and i are still m. He is living with his MIL and ow. I am not on speaking terms with MIL because she let ow come and live at her house. She is having the surgery tomorrow. I am going to have my son tell her that i hope surgery goes well. Its to painful for me to speak to her. We use to be pretty close but had our disagreements too.
Hope you are doing well. I am afraid im heading for d. MY h changed his address to MIL last week after a yr and blocked me from being able to find our the balance of his bank acct. I think theyr'e hiding $ from me now and im getting worried. He owns his own business.

[MrBond]

"I am not on speaking terms with MIL because she let ow come and live at her house. "

YOu have to let this anger go. She's not the one who did anything wrong. Your H did. All she's doing is taking care of her son. You'd do the same thing if it were your son.

"I think theyr'e hiding $ from me now and im getting worried."

Mindreading. It's the little thoughts like this that you are allowing to wreak havoc in your mind. For your sake you've got to stop wondering about what your H is or isn't going. Bottom line is - YOU DON'T KNOW. Take care of your own health first.