...he announces he wants a divorce 3 hrs before he takes off to see his new love interest? He wants to help me keep the house for the kids stability and to save us both from foreclosure...but that means he has to live here in another room. At first, (last week) I thought I could handle it, as if we were roommates. Now, I don't think I can. I am a mess as I here him grooming himself to go to spend the night with our daughter's softball coach (the new woman)again this weekend. Our children are 13 and 11. They have figured out what is going on...btw, he is a pathetic liar. As much as we all love him and will miss him. We are in so much pain as he spends his weekends with OW. We think we want to kick him out now...but he is our sole financial support and we will miss him terribly. I worry what will happen if I allow the kids to confront him with their knowledge of the OW. Plus, will kicking him out be the wrong move? Shall we just suck it up and hope he brings his heart back home, eventually?
What do YOU and YOUR children want? I would start by figuring that out first. If you decide you want to save the relationship, then you should buy some of the divorce busting books and read them. Reread them. Live by them. I hope this helps a little, I am going through a lot right now and it is sort of the same advice I am giving myself. Hugs..
Yes, it's still cheating, obviously -- he's still married to you.
You need to set (and learn to enforce) some boundaries here, JL. It's not emotionally healthy for you -- OR your kids! -- to have your husband's infidelity rubbed in your face on a weekly basis.
Have you told him that the current arrangement is unacceptable? Do you have any family who can help you out logistically and financially, so you can do what you need to do here?
