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Originally Posted By: Ready2Change
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Originally Posted By: Kalni
..an argument I've seen used lately was "how dare you speak this way since you haven't saved your M"? Excuse me? If that was a valid argument, 99% of the veterans would have to quit posting.


Wow, that's demoralizing - 99% of the people here haven't saved their marriages?


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I can tell you that from the people who were quoted in that and from that small sample the number is much higher than only 1% 'saved' their marriage.

99%? Kalni was just making a point.

And even if it was true, isn't your marriage worth seeing if you are the 1% exception?



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Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans
I can tell you that from the people who were quoted in that and from that small sample the number is much higher than only 1% 'saved' their marriage.

99%? Kalni was just making a point.

And even if it was true, isn't your marriage worth seeing if you are the 1% exception?



Absolutely, I would want to be part of whatever the percentage is for saving my M.

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Gr8,

Thanks for the link. Lots of wisdom there.

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Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans
And even if it was true, isn't your marriage worth seeing if you are the 1% exception?

Of course my marriage it worth trying - that's why I'm here. I wish I felt like I could control it.


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