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WAW leaving in June - Do I have time? #2133305 02/20/11 02:51 PM
Joined: Sep 2010 Posts: 275 NUNYA S Scared2Def OP Member
OP Scared2Def Member S Joined: Sep 2010 Posts: 275 NUNYA	Here is my previous thread. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2132970&page=1 I am just pluggin thru this weekend with my kids while Wife is on vacation in England, she went to a Twilight convention in Birmingham. She has been obsessed with Twilight now for a little over a year. That is when all this has finally gone down hill with us. Anyway, she comes home tomorrow and I am really not in the mood. I just want my kids and me. I just wish she would come home tomorrow and want to start US all over again. It will not happen and I know that, I just want this to all sort itself out. I have been DB'ing since 2nd of January and have had hits and misses. Overall I know I cannot change her anymore, I can only enjoy life for me. Which I have been doing but speed bumps do pop up on my road to recovery from time to time. Just need people in my corner. SANDI2 has been a gift from the heaven's. Please visit my emotional breakdowns and help guide me through this chaos. Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out

Re: WAW leaving in June - Do I have time? Scared2Def #2133586 02/21/11 01:06 PM
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OP Scared2Def Member S Joined: Sep 2010 Posts: 275 NUNYA	Well wife gets home later this evening from her weekend trip. What should I do? I pick her up from airport should I say anything special? Should I try to hug her? Or let her make all the moves? Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out

Re: WAW leaving in June - Do I have time? Scared2Def #2133597 02/21/11 02:44 PM
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alamo76 Member A Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 903 Benicia, CA	Originally Posted By: Scared2Def I pick her up from airport should I say anything special? Should I try to hug her? Or let her make all the moves? No, no, and yes! M37, S5 M-7y; T-8y Separated 060410 Wife/son moved 022611 Wife serves d-papers 032011 I filed child custody 042012; obtained custody 070312 Bifurcated 103112

Re: WAW leaving in June - Do I have time? alamo76 #2133609 02/21/11 03:20 PM
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OP Scared2Def Member S Joined: Sep 2010 Posts: 275 NUNYA	Can I say " missed you" or "glad your back" Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out

Re: WAW leaving in June - Do I have time? Scared2Def #2133638 02/21/11 05:03 PM
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sandi2 Member S Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 18,666 Likes: 1	Nope! How would you act if this was a co-worker, distant cousin, or a room-mate? It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!

Re: WAW leaving in June - Do I have time? sandi2 #2133640 02/21/11 05:06 PM
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sandi2 Member S Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 18,666 Likes: 1	Let her make the moves and lead the conversation. Don't act like you are mad but don't act all gushy that she's back. It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!

Re: WAW leaving in June - Do I have time? sandi2 #2133643 02/21/11 05:16 PM
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OP Scared2Def Member S Joined: Sep 2010 Posts: 275 NUNYA	Originally Posted By: sandi2 Let her make the moves and lead the conversation. Don't act like you are mad but don't act all gushy that she's back. Ok, I will give it a shot. In my head I am wondering how long before she plops down on couch and starts chatting on the internet. I am wondering how many words will be said to me before she does that...? Fuel to the fire I suppose. Just things that are starting to aggrivate me. Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out

Re: WAW leaving in June - Do I have time? Scared2Def #2133659 02/21/11 05:43 PM
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OP Scared2Def Member S Joined: Sep 2010 Posts: 275 NUNYA	45 minutes until I go pick her up at airport! Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out

Re: WAW leaving in June - Do I have time? Scared2Def #2133703 02/21/11 07:17 PM
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OP Scared2Def Member S Joined: Sep 2010 Posts: 275 NUNYA	Not a darned thing. Not even a how was everything this weekend. Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out

Re: WAW leaving in June - Do I have time? Scared2Def #2133707 02/21/11 07:26 PM
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2stepboogie Member 2 Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,496	Ok so move on with your day. Are you happy to see her? BITS

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