MichelleLT and others

[verysad2day]

I keep seeing this.."Ignore all of what they say and half of what they do"

What does this mean... ignore what they do? When they move out ignore? When they say it is over, ignore?

Can I have a few examples please

[Redo]

Ignore all of what they say - Because if you don't and catch on everything and feel bad or good, then you are sure to be on a emotional roll coaster.

Ignore half of what they do - Because they are in a fog and seeing a mirage of happiness after the divorce, better to ignore certain actions just as long they are not permanently damaging. Like my W came one day and took all of her stuff and my daughter's stuff. House became 50% empty. But that's okay. When we reconcile, it is just gonna cost me a truck rental to get their things back... I feel better if i reason my W's actions this way. I could be wrong.

[MrBond]

Have you read DR yet? That has a good explanation in there. And trust me, we've ALL heard the "I want a D and nothing is going to change my mind" speech.

[sandycay]

Basically it means don't over analyze things! I see people on here that get angst over ... "they brought me a cup of coffee" (does this mean the love me).... "he ML to me 4 times in the past two days" ( are we reconciling)

They say and do weird things .... period... they are acting off the cuff... so best to ignore these things and go your course.

If they want to reconcile... you'll be the first to know. Other wise DB for you. It's the best thing for YOUR mental health.

[verysad2day]

I did read it 4 years ago, but have since passed it on.

[MrBond]

Go and get another copy ASAP. Read and re-read it.